how to make a better relationship with you kids? especially teens?

Question

tips?

Answer 1

Think back when you were a teenager.

Answer 2

Get to know your kids. Adolescence are an elusive species. They, for the most part, want to keep their personal lives out of mom and dad's business. There is nothing wrong with that because their brain is telling their bodies that they are growing up and need to start taking care of themselves.

Just strike up a conversation with them in a situation where they will listen without feeling invaded. Example, DON'T randomly walk into their room and start asking questions because then they will feel that you think they have done something wrong and will get defensive. A ride home from school or the mall is a good time and place. Ask about what they bought or what movie they saw. That will give you insight on their tastes. Get to know what they like and use that to build a stronger bond. Don't be bossy with them, but at the same time, you are their parent...not their friend.

Don't fret, most teenagers pull away from their parents during these 8 years (12-20). But once they reach their 20s they usually come back.

I hope this helps a little.

Cheers!

Answer 3

It is hard if your a working parent or not. Teens get where they want to have there own say about of alot of things. You have to keep the Communication open all the time. Tell them if there is anything they want to talk about , you are there for them. But best not to push your self on them. But set a curfew and bounders. If they stay within them, then everything will be fine. But there are times when they want to do a little more, They should be able to ask you without sneaking around. You have to be stern, and bend some at the same time. So you have to work together , it takes both sides, But don't let it get out of hand it will keep rolling. Good Luck Pem

Answer 4

You don't say the ages of the teens. HONESTY is the best policy. Give them honesty and let them know you expect it in return. Respect their privacy and let them know you expect the same. The only time I invaded one of my childrens privacy was when I thought she was on drugs. (She is on the right path now and in college). Never fear your child or back down when you make a logical moral stand - you are the parent. (I know many parents that fear their teenagers and yet those same teenagers have respect for me because I do not fear them). If you are doing something wrong, illegal or immoral, you have lost your teenagers respect already. (My childrens friends told them that they wish they had a parent that cared about them as much as I care about my children, because their parents don't care if they are out all night, get in trouble or what they do). They need guidance (even if they say they don't), they need love and acceptance. You don't HAVE to understand them, if you don't then just understand that you don't that's pretty honest. Be interested in them, and seek their assistance within the family. They are wonderful people.

Answer 5

You can go one of two ways:

First, you can be one of those scumbag parents that buy their kids beer and or drugs. This is awful but makes a good relationship with their idiot kids.

Second, you can just be nice to them, give them space when they need it. Don't sweat little things. If your kids Friends are responsible, don't give them a hard time about going out with them. This is what teens do, just accept it. But be there for them when they need a parent.

Answer 6

Talk to them, avoid asking loads of questions (test the water here as they may want you to, but some teens are very private individuals). Let them know everything thats going on in your family, and treat them all equally. If they're on holidays go on non expensive outings together. Just extra attention at home will make them feel more positive and loved towards you.

Without pressurising them, help siblings to bond together too.

Answer 7

I am a single mother of a new teen... We have a good relationship. I've always let her know I'm here for her no matter what. We have fun together. She is like one of my best friends, but I am also her mother. There is a way to be both. Be there for them no matter what. Keep the lines of communication open. Listen to them.

Answer 8

Dear mother,
first of all as an older teen,i would say that developin better relationships with your kids depends on how you treat them n also on your own ability.correctin them sternly while they are still young benefits them.I suggest you need to start respectin your kid as they grow older.respect their ideas n also find time to spend with them jus to get the message across that you still there for them.

but lendin too much freedon too can spoil the child especially boys. it is indeed necessary that you keep their changin habits in check.dont punish your kid jus to finish off your anger.thats an inhumane act by many parents.but correct them in a way they would know that its for their own good.speak to them very lovingly after you have punished them.advice them softly.specially for hot tempered teens,acceptin a mistake done by you incase would be a way to show your respect for them.
showin acceptance of their views or say among adult talks bychance tells them that a very matured behaviour is expected of them.an automatic transmission of their behavior is 99.9%guaranteed.askin them thier suggestions even though u don need it is a helpful task.are'nt you ready to do anythin jus to have a good relation ship with your dear kids?try these points sugestd by me, myself a teen of 19.
dear mother im sure n would defnitly pray for the betterment of your relationship with your kid(s) n i would hope to hear a good news from you soon.

Answer 9

Don't order them around. Let them be a part of doing things in their lives. If you need the grass cut, for example, don't demand that they do it now. Tell them that the grass needs cutting and ask when they would be able to accomplish it. Let them make the committment. After it is done, compliment them on what a good job they did. It is treating them like you want to be treated and not being the gestapo police. I have done it that way.........worked wonders.

Answer 10

Listen!!!! I cannot stress how important listening is. Don't let it go in one ear and out the other. That could make a bad relationship even worse! Show some empathy!

Answer 11

What worked for me as a parent raising 2 girls and 3 boys is to never forget what it was like to be a teenager. talk and share the joys and the pain of growing up.