The lonelyness is paplable now. help!?

Question

at first look there is nothing wrong with my life. but i have a bestfriend who i am in love with. we share everything, but i know he doesnt want me in a relationship. he is an excuse for me to not meet new men bc i am overweight and a stresshead. i have a uni degree that is almost finished and i dont know where i am going, and i have a job where things are changing so quickly that i cant keep my head above water. help! i need something to cling to in this moment, and please dont say god, i know all about him already. i need to let go and i just cant.

Answer 1

Only you can give your life meaning, or your actions purpose. You have to think about what gives you a good feeling about yourself and your actions, and that will help you decide what to do with your education. When you are happy with yourself, that leads to self confidence, and people gravitate toward that.

However, these thoughts may help you as somthing to cling to.

Consider starting a journal. Write down 3 statements each day that are true about you, that are wholely positive, and that are about things that you are, or things that you can do. Such as - I can read. I am a helpful person. I can change the oil in a car's engine. (These are true - about me.) Try to write down 3 new things each day - but if you can't think of anything new, re-read your prior pages and write ones you have already written. It works to help you understand yourself, and knowing yourself gives you strength during the lonely times.

Then remember this thought. If every person chose one cause whose purpose is the non-violent betterment of some portion of the world, or life, or living, and devoted some time and, if possible, money to the cause regularly, how much a better place this world would be.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

i am lonely too. i go every day to Iranian national library and study, use internet.