Friday my girl had broke up with me not by her choice but because i am white and she is black n her family doesn't not approve but she still calls like she ust to and says she loves me n nothing has changed sept 4 we are not going out n that we aren't going to get back anytime soon but I still have feelings for you and basically its like we still goin out but not labeled... what should I do
2006-08-06 02:01:59 · 15 answers · asked by Codizzle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on.her family wont accept you.that can only cause grief for the two of you.
2006-08-06 02:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her and her family. I gather you can still hang out.
Perhaps the family feels you were moving a little too quickly for young people. Build yourself up, and establish yourself as a fine upstanding citizen. Not that you aren't, but make sure that you get enough recognition so that everyone in your community knows you are a young man who will be going places in a respectable manner. Work on grades, school leadership, athletics, extracurricular activites, or anything you want that will EARN the respect of the communities.
So still go out some. Remember, racism exists even in the "nicest of communities", and her family may be concerned of what their friends would say. Or they may be concerned about what your family's friends would think. They are fully aware of what some people who don't know you both might think, say or do.
Give it time, keep it light. She can say you are her friend, without the heaviness of saying you are her boyfriend.
IMPORTANT: You may have just been given the "let's be friends" speech, except she puts it on her parents. If so, don't be an idiot. You'll need to be respected when you go looking for another girl.
2006-08-06 09:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis Y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are not fit to date.If you start breaking up with someone on flimsy grounds, you wont find many attached to you. Did you not know that she is black when you started the affair? She is still black and you are still white-so dont give me that crap!!Where there is a will there is a way!! You are the evader ...not she.
2006-08-06 09:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you could spend the rest of your life with this girl? Get married? Start a family with? If so keep trying, her parents will eventually have to get use to the fact that this is what their daughter wants. It's either they accept it and have their daughter in their life or disown her for a stupid reason! They should be happy that she is happy ; ) Good Luck dude.
2006-08-06 09:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a white girlfriend and save yourself the drama.
2006-08-06 09:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some English classes your grammar is atrocious. I think her parents are more concerned with your level of education rather than the color of your skin.
2006-08-06 09:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by JReb_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two of legal age?If so do what you both feel is right,if not wait till you are.
2006-08-06 09:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and speak to her parents and let them know that u are a decent guy! if it doesn't work i'd say move on! sorry!
2006-08-06 09:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself clear, man. Are you going out with her or not? If you are going out with her, then you're dating. If not, you're not.
2006-08-06 09:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nonsense what is BLACK & WHITE
2006-08-06 09:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Chander K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋