my sister is frequently trying to pick a fight with me and she's swearing to me using words I've never even heard before and its making me very, very angry. However, if that was all she was doing to me, I'd find a way to spite her. The problem is, she's doing the same thing to our parents. Just listning to her, you'd think she had no proper unbringing, but that's not true for my parents tried real hard to get my sister and I good education and besides, she's currently going to high school that is said to be among of the best school in the country. My parents have tried warning, lecturing, threatning, pleading, you name it. But all that has failed to affect her. I, personally have used more solid methods using force which apparently has failed also. The thing is, I cannot confide this problem to anyone for what would people think of my sister or my parents? And the problem is very serious and obviously needs counseling. Please help me.
2006-08-06 00:08:07 · 24 answers · asked by Tobias. H. J, 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am VERY POSITIVE she's NOT
2006-08-07 03:46:38 · update #1
..damn it I pressed enter as an accident... well, I'm positive she's not having drugs. I am very, very sure of that. Besides she is not totally vile for she is nice sometimes-it's just that she treats her family including me much ..er, 'indecently' than she's doing to others. It's nothing as serious as drugs, I just wated to tell. Tried family talk, too; didn't work, I'm afraid.
2006-08-07 03:51:30 · update #2
she needs an exorcism
2006-08-06 00:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by julia4evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person has a sudden change in personality, and they're not going through puberty, then they have a serious problem. Either something emotionally or physically has happened to them they don't know how to handle it.
Support her, tell her you want to help if shes worried hurt or in trouble. If she still has anger towards you, tell her that she should be careful, that someday she might go to far away from the people that love her, and have a hard time getting back to them, and to go to someone she can talk to with no fears, and get counseled.
2006-08-06 00:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
there are several things that YOU MUST NOT do
do NOT attempt to pick a fight with her ie use force etc- it will only make her angrier. Whatever you do, find one method, and stick to it. Has your sister seen a counsellor? if this is out of the question, get someone close to her to talk to her - if your mum has tried or failed, what about an auntie, or close family friend? Try to find out if your sister is having problems at school, or having a fight with friends. Don't get angry with her, just like force, this will encourage her. I know you've probably heard it before, but just try to ignore her.
2006-08-06 00:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by lenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like one of my daughters who treats her sister and everyone else badly. Don't worry about what other people would think about you and your family the reality is your sister needs help. In our case we sat the daughter down told her what was acceptable and what wasn't insisted that she either went to counselling or we could try and have family mediation however if the abuse continues we will be asking her to leave which we had to do. Throughout all of this we reminded her that she was very much loved but the behaviour was to destructive to how we wanted to live our lives. U will be pleased to know she is now a wondrful young lady
2006-08-06 00:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, she's probably on drugs. Seriously. She's in high school, and it is very easy to get mixed up with things. She could also be showing symptoms of bipolar disorder or severe mood swings due to hormones. Whatever her deal is, you need to stop worrying about ignorant people and their bad judgments towards your family and seek out the help you need. Good luck to you!!
2006-08-06 00:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by pureromancebypatricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am assuming your sis is a teenager right? I think its a phase they go through some of them anyway, becoming an adult and testing their parents, stuck between a child and an adult or maybe shes having a hard time at school and taking it out on you guys im sure theres something bothering her she may need anger management counseling
2006-08-06 00:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question in your statement "And the problem is very serious and obviously needs counseling." so why not try to suggest a family counselor, pastor, or someone not directly related or involved in the situation?
2006-08-06 00:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Big-Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sisters problem is effecting the whole family unit. The problem is not really your sister it's your parents for not squashing this behaviour. Your sister is a spoiled brat bully who thinks she is above and beyond dicipline and heaven forbid I throw in respect for authority on top of it.
Your sister needs to have her brat wings clipped and all priveledges taken away. Think of it as Good Dog Bad Dog!!! As you know Bad dogs don't know they're BAD dogs until they're crated!!
You are the sibling....so you can't Clip your sisters BRAT wings...It's your PARENTS that need to do this and be consistant when they dicipline her!
Your sister also sounds very insecure and low self-esteem....this combination in itself....tend to have the BULLY MOUTHY ugly come out! Next time she's mouthing at you keep the ultimate surprize handy.....An icy COLD glass or pitcher of water thrown at her when she least expects it. Even if you have to wait until she's asleep to surprize her!!! Play the game of Fire with Fire!!!! Don't stoop to her level of vulgarity in verbage....She is using her tongue and voice as her bully tool!!! Don't engage her in conversation when she's doing this Just WALK away....If no one listens to her mouth .....she won't be able to bother you!!!
You need to communicate your feelings to your parents!!!! Open your parents EYES.....The #1 factor in your family UNIT is causing your family UNIT to fall apart. Your sister and your Parents need HELP...
2006-08-06 00:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is a teen it is typical annoying behavior that they hopefully grow out of. But, it basically comes down to a decision. Decide weather you will tolerate the behavior and if not decide on the consequence for the behavior..
For example.. She screams at you... you can choose to react or you can choose to walk away and not give her the time of day.
Your parents can choose to tolerate her behavior or they can choose to have her admitted for psychological evaluation..
The physical violence you speak of will only make things worse.
2006-08-06 00:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a mental problem and needs to see a psychiatrist. OR
She knows one of your parents is having an affair and that's the only way she knows how to get back at them.
2006-08-06 05:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried all of the above, you might seriously want to consider getting your sister some counseling.
2006-08-06 00:18:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋