does it look bad when a women has been married three times.?

Question

i have been married three times and am starting to wonder, do men think that as a turn off? none of the divorces were my fault, they lied, they cheated and the last one started doing drugs and cheating with girls that were young enough to be his daughter. why do men insist on having their cake and eat it too? i LEFT their ***'s because they became someone i didnt know anymore. would a man that has interests in me look down on me as damaged goods?

how would drugs and younger women be my fault, when i decided to leave, why did they all cry carry on and in one case stalk me? and they still say sorry today and call to see what im doing, and give me an update on their habits? OBVIOUSLY i have bad taste but i guess my real question is, why does men have to lose what they had, to respect or miss it, like the saying , you never know what cha got till its gone......IM NO VICTUM, by any means.

Answer 1

Well, based on what you've said, it would make me wonder about your ability to select a partner. The only thing that might turn me off is what might appear to be a lack of common sense and good judgement.

Answer 2

There is no need to explain this situation to anybody??? A divorce is a divorce....Enough said!! If you try to explain you will only fall into a hole. One question and answer will only lead to another and it's really none of their business!! That was your past you made some mistakes (like we all do) so let's move forward!! Some men may even want you to spare them the details!! Besides there are two sides to every story and I'm sure these men (your ex-husbands) could say some ugly things about you, so don't go there!! Personally I think it doesn't look attractive for a man or woman to be married 3 times. That tells me this person is to risky and doesn't' have a good sense of judgment. But that is not to say you can't get married again, there are plenty of men out there!! Just be a little more cautious about who you date, totally find out who this person is (b/f you walk down the isle). Look at signs, learn to read them, Not ignore them. Don't allow yourself to fall for just anything and make these men respect you!! Men are good at walking all over desperate women, because they can read them a mile away!! So don't continue to give these LOSERS!! any satisfaction, not even your Presence!! I hope this helps...
Good Luck & Be Blessed!!

Answer 3

Well, it depends on you and the men that are interested in you. It may not have been your fault that those other guys cheated and did drugs, but it is your fault that you married them. Men will wonder what kind of woman you are to have married such people, especially more than once. However, if you have a really good personality and explain your situation thoroughly to them, they will probably understand and accept it. I think you could get along well with many men, but some will not like your history and will think it reflects badly on you. Good luck!

Answer 4

Initially a guy will be turned off by that but if you tell him that it wasn't your fault and briefly tell him why, most guys will understand. I think the bigger thing guys get turned off by are women with children from previous marriages. While that one won't turn off all guys it's a lot stronger than being divorced. I am sure if you let any guy get to know you well enough they will see how you're a sweet person who has just had a bad string of luck with guys. I'm very happy to hear you haven't given up on all guys and continue to seek trye happyness (at least in my mind). Good for you and I am sure you'll find the right person someday soon.

Answer 5

It all depends on what, why, when and where.

Why: you got divorced, is very important.

What caused is, did you cut your husband off from sex, then he went looking else where? These are concerns.

When, did your ex husband start cheating and why did he.

How: How come you were not able to satisfy your husband, so he would not cheat. This is a big concern in a tripple divorced person, male/female.

Answer 6

Because, honeslty, all we hear is YOUR side of the story. I'm sure if we hear THEIR side you wouldn't come across as so much of victimized angel. Stop blaming the man for all the woes in the failed relationship and figure out what YOU may have done to have causality in the situation. Once you find THAT out you'll probably find why you're divorced 3 times and how your personality or actions may cause men to avoid you.

Answer 7

If you feel in your mind you are in the clear then hold your head up and be proud take care of your little ones and remember GOD loves you.... ohhh by the way you look marvalouse and too sexxxxy...

Answer 8

I DONT THINK IT LOOK BAD, SOME TIME TO GET TO KNOW'THE PERSON, AND THERE ARE MANY REASONS
THAT PEOPLE MARRY MANY TMES. BUT DONT GIVE
UP HOPE, THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE IS'JUST
MAY TAKE SOME TIME. BUT YOU KNOW THAT YOU ALWAY
LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES. SO YOU DONT MAKE THEM
AGAIN.SOME TIME YOU MAY HAVE KISS SOME FROGS BEFORE YOU FIND YOUR PRINCE. OR PRINCESS.

Answer 9

Man is simple,

If you are beautiful and pretty,
Man don't care about
how many times you got married and divorced.
how many child you have given birthes.
.
.
anything..
most of times .. i think...

Answer 10

you should probably worry about it if you hit your 10th divorce. and if the guy isn't willing to listen about why you was divorced 3 times...then he's not into the you.