i love him too much i have real feelings towards him but...... sometimes i feel that he has the same feelings others no he is my boss he respects me and me too
help me please
2006-08-05 03:25:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he is not married as he is a young man elder than me 2 years
you supose that is a bad thing tell me please
2006-08-06 02:52:00 · update #1
If you have any respect for yourself, you will leave this one alone. Most relationships of this nature are ego born and fed by his ability to control you. A lot of men get off on being able to use psychological control over their woman to a point where it will get abusive if she stays in the relationship long enough and it will be such a long time before YOU realize it. Right now you're so mesmerized by him because of your respect for him as your boss, the great feelings you have for him, etc. that your not seeing past that point. He's loving all the attention and the "danger" of sneaking around and that's making it just that much more exciting for him. But if you step back, be a third person, be responsible and respectful to yourself, the girl in this relationship, then ask her what her boss would think of her if she worked somewhere else, what would she say? Would they still have the same feelings and would they still see each other everyday? Would he still flirt with her as much or would he flirt with the girl who took her place? Think about it and always, ALWAYS love yourself first.
2006-08-12 19:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by mom@war 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must understand that your boss is in a very tough place here. If he begins to have an affair with you and it gets out. Every other employee will holler favoritism. And he could loose his job over it.
Companies take this very serious and most will not allow spouses to be in the same department because of the boss employee relationship.
As hard as it is DO NOT pursue this at work. You will get him. into a lot of trouble. If you can find a way to get with him after work, let him know how you feel, and then let him do what he must you will no where you stand. But NEVER EVER at work.
2006-08-05 03:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont mess with the boss. It can only lead to problems. (say Christie Brinkleys husband for example). Find a nice young man your age and deal with him, or if you feel the need to mess with a boss, go to a different company and start something with them!
Respecting you isnt the same as loving you though- part of it, but not everything
2006-08-12 15:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young and how old is the man in this deal? And is he married? He's already got one strike against him, he is your boss, and he is really treading close to a "boundary" especially if you are as young as I suspect you are. If you have an older trusted adult you can talk to about this, please do, and I don't mean the boss. Someone who is a neutral thrid party, like an aunt or older cousin.
And I agree with a former answer, you cannot make someone love you, you can only make them want too. Excellent answer BTW. Peace.
2006-08-05 03:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man cares about you I am sure he could ask you out on a date. He may just value you as a work collegue and you could ruin a good job if you try and make more out of it than there actually is. Suggest (in a friendly) way that you go for a drink after work to unwind - if he says yes take it from there - if he says no then he does not want a relationship with you. You cannot make hime love you so settle for his friendship and respect.
2006-08-06 23:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by the way you phrase the question and the grammar etc you can't be that old, and you don't really know the actual meaning of love. Infatuation more like. You'll get over it soon... I hope for your sake.
If he is a proper man he won't (and shouldn't) take advantage of you. If he does then remember to tell someone.
2006-08-06 12:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there an age difference at work here.?
is your boss already married?
how can you love someone too much , is it an obsession?
does he return your love.?
do you believe he is unfaithfull to you with other women in your work?
if you answered yes to any of the above then change your job. you are only the office/work distraction , and this relationship will cause you nothing but heartache.
2006-08-05 04:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by lefang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
falling in love with your boss is a dangerous thing. i fell in love with my shrink we had a great time at first but then realised that it was not ethical, i still love him with all my heart even though i am married to another man now.
go steady girl
2006-08-05 03:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by welshwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something he likes and do something he always does...Better all, cook for him...then, etc...keep a distance from him...Men usually like somebody who they can't get...I teased many of them...I never married to either one of them...'cause their personalities...
2006-08-12 19:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you. You can only make them want to love you.
2006-08-05 03:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by trevors30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋