I told my bf that I had herpes & he said that he couldn't be with me ne more.. We had been together for a while when I found out.. Is this normal? Im starting to get worried that no one will want to be with me b/c of that
2006-08-03 20:15:34 · 11 answers · asked by luv242684 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
i didn't know before hand that i had it..
2006-08-03 20:24:52 · update #1
You'll need to tell someone in advance of sexual relations next time. What you did was an abuse of trust. Some people will be put off, and some won't. Good luck.
2006-08-03 20:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way are you the bad person! You were honest and told him that you had herpes, that takes a lot of courage to do that. You have done the right thing and if he cant get over that fact well then you're better off without him!
Excuse my language but some people can be ***** about certain issues. Always be honest about what you have if you want to get sexual with a person and im sure a mature person will not care if you use protection and you are being treated.
2006-08-04 06:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by race_shift_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very sorry to hear that luv
Genital Herpes is a very common diseases but since it's an STI or STD people don't really talk about it, the real problem about herpes is that it's not curable and you can transmit it even when you are not experiencing symptoms
I've had a few patients with STI's but what they confess behind closed doors is that being truthful 3 or 4 hours BEFORE you think you'll end up with this person is usually a good time to bring the cards to the table.
Always remember that you should use a condom every time 'cause even with treatment it is possible to spread herpes, and also trying to be in a monogamous relationship is the best way to avoid complications of this sort
2006-08-04 03:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not the bad person in this , did you have herpes before you had the boyfriend? if not theres a good chance he could of given it to you. from now on make sure the guy uses protection as he will get it too even with no breakouts. some guys will shy away when you tell them but you will find some that as long as protection is used and you are both comfortable with this , everything will be all right.
2006-08-04 03:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of herpes? My cousin has a type of it (cold sores) and it can only be caught if you touch while one is present. Medicine can help that. He obviously didnt care TOO much about you to just leave you like that. Maybe he thought you didnt have it before so you must have cheated on him. Insure him you were faithful and that herpes can lay dormant for YEARS w/o showing up...You can be born with it (like my cousin).....If he doesnt want to be with you b/c of something you cant help, then his loss. They are MANY MANY people with herpes that take medicine for it and live happy, normal lives....
2006-08-04 05:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by moonlesswaltz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him when you found out so you were honest. You are not a bad person. Did he see if he has it yet? You may have gotten it from him. If he thinks you got it before him or cheated on him that may be why he left you. If he left because you found out you have an STD and did not cheat on him, then he didn't really love you anyway. You are better off without him. I think someone will want you if you put off having sex until you get to know them and you are honest about it and use a condom.
2006-08-04 04:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Erin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
It is not your fault that you have herpes, okay stop blaming yourself, if he really loved you he could need time to think..it wasn't right that you kept that from him though.....alot of people would have ran a mile when you told them before hand...
You will find a relationship ..have faith..someone who truly deserves you
2006-08-04 06:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by kida_w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not. Things like this happens and if your boyfriend really cared about you he wouldn't let this stop you from having a relationship. It doesn't always have to be about sex. In the future when you are in a relationship with a guy and it gets to the sexual part, tell him and see how he handles it. A guy would never put sex first if he really cared or loved you. Good luck!
2006-08-04 03:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by sk70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is a very good foundation in a relationship... unless you've exposed yourself sexually to other men, you aren't the bad person because as you said you've been together for a bit of a while when you found out about your condition. i can only assume you contracted the disease from him.
2006-08-04 03:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by dianne l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing telling him.. thats probably how you got them no one told you they had herpes..good luck to you .. dont worrie you will find someone,
2006-08-04 22:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋