It is easy to see how the rules of etiquette have changed over the last century. I am curious as to how you are affected. Example: Men, do you hold the door for a woman or are you afraid of how she might react? Women, are you offended or pleased when men hold the door for you? Feel free to include any other examples of etiquette.
2006-08-03 09:13:29 · 18 answers · asked by Monkee 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I like having the door held for me, but like a lot of you, if I see a man (or woman) coming behind me, I'll hold the door for them.
I must confess though that if a man and I approach the door together, I usually stop and wait for him to open the door. The surprised looks I get are sometime laughable. lol.
To all my southern friends: I'm a southerner also. *wink* I understand where you're coming from.
To everyone else, thanks for your answers. I'll let everyone vote for a favorite.
2006-08-06 17:16:29 · update #1
I'm a little older than many here, and as a southern gentleman, I assure you my mother raised me right! I always hold the door for my wife and any other women in a given circumstance. I also usually hold the chair for my wife when we're being seated in a restaurant, etc.
I've seen the way so many of these younger guys act, and frankly, I don't know why you gals put up with it. Just to fair though, it should be pointed out that a lot of younger women have no clue about social etiquette either. I've seen grown women eating in public with little difference between their behavior and those of pigs at a trough. Now don't get touchy...like I said, just to be fair! I think everyone could probably use a full-out refresher course in the social graces--it wouldn't hurt, would it?
2006-08-03 09:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by stevenB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a woman, I love having the door held for me, I must admit. But as a women's libber from way back, I also admit -- I love turning the tables. Ladies, you should try it. There are many times where the timing is just right that you can grab the door and hold it for a man -- just watch his expression!! I love it.
BTW, my husband was raised very well -- he still helps with my coat, which causes people to stare at us! But I get him back when I grab the check and pay for dinner -- that always seem to upset the waitress (or moreso the waiter!). And why do they *always* give him the change?! LOL!!
2006-08-03 09:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think rules have changed but attitudes about etiquette have. My boys are 9 and 11 and from the time they could hold the door open..they have. I explained to them that not only is it polite but they may be helping someone that is having a really crummy day and just that one act of kindness can turn their day towards better. I have held the door for men behind me, I don't think that's wierd or whatever. It's just a matter of courtesy. My husband carries the laundry and groceries for me, not bcuz I'm weaker but bcuz he knows it makes me happy.
2006-08-03 15:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is proper to hold the door for anyone male or female. If you arrive at the door first. Also many women hold doors for men to and I find that very polite. So I believe it is equally proper. Just a matter of common courtesy
2006-08-03 14:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I am a bit older than some others on this site, I grew up learning to hold the door and I still do it. It is amazing that most women are pleased and surprised. I feel good doing it. I also think women are my equal, but having some pleasant routines and etiquittes is good.
2006-08-03 09:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice when men hold the door open. My husband does this all the time. However, in my office building, there was a time when this man (more like pig) ran in front of me as I was opening the door for myself. He just slipped into the building nearly pushing me out of the way. Uh. . .for those types of men, if you want to stay single and dateless for the rest of your life, keep doing those rude things.
2006-08-03 09:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I do strive to provide woman around me with the courtesies such as opening doors and pulling out chairs. I haven't met any lady yet that has responded negatively to them. Even serious feminists don't complain when you pick up the check after taking them out to dinner. Inherently, I believe all women want to be treated with that kind of respect.
2006-08-03 09:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the south if a man doesn't hold the door open for a woman he's the worst kind of cad! His momma just didn't raise him right, bless his heart!
2006-08-03 09:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by nunya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always open the door for my wife. The only exception: when we are getting in the car, I always open the door for her, but when we are getting out of the car, she does not wait for me to come around and open her side. I think it is a sign of respect.
2006-08-03 09:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by nuclear_science 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always open doors for women, and pay the way. If the woman doesn't let me hold open the doors and stuff, then I feel like Im not doing my part
2006-08-03 09:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by joeschmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋