I want to know something....?

Question

How many people out there think that teenagers think that they can come ang go as they please? What should we do about this situation? Isn't that why so many of our children are getting STD's and AIDS? We really need to get something done.

Answer 1

Hello From a Teacher,

Many teens are getting infected with STD's that will affect them for the rest of their lives. In today's world, parents really have to start talking to their kids about sex when they are 10 years old--because by time they become teenagers its too late. Parents need to talk to their kids about sex, STD's, pregnancy, everything with they are 10, 11, and 12 year olds. I'm a Teacher, and parents have this idea that their kids are innocent virgens who know nothing about sex. Baloney! I've heard 12 and 13 year old girls whispering to each other about the sex they're having with boyfriends. I've seen used condoms in the High School stairways. I've seen 15 year old girls confessing in class that they're pregnant...Listen, kids today turn on MTV and see sex scenes in music videos, people having sex on reality shows, everything. They know all about sex. BUT, all the Republicans want to do is preach "Abstinance"--knowing good well that they themselves weren't Virgens when they got married!

I'm gonna tell you what worked for me: when I was in college, every year--the Resident Doctor would call us all down to the lobby to give a slide-show. He wouldnt preach. He would project onto a huge screen, giant images of patients who had been recently diagnosed with STD's--everything from herpes, syphils, genital warts, everything. I saw photos of people vaginas and penises with open sores, green pus, thick yellow discharge, quarter-sized warts, and millions of red, pus filled bumps. Some college guys would get so sick watching it, they would actually walk out. But that taught me a LESSON--I decided that sex--- before getting married to someone who I have TESTED for Every STD in the universe--- was simply Not worth it. I'm not a holy roller or religious nut, and I believe that Teen should use condoms, and have also access to them in high school nurses offices. But truly beleive that if parents calmly talk to, and show their pre-teens ALL the consequences that can come from sex: from being a teen mom with baby-momma & baby daddy drama & child support issues, to STD's that thers is NO cure for---I think teens would--at the very least--use condoms if they're gonna have sex, if not wait until marriage to have sex. If you preach abstinace, abstinace, abstinace--that doesnt give youth the power to make their own informed decisions when they "fall in love" as teens. But, if parents want to live in denial thinking that their "baby" knows nothing of sex at age 12 and that their kids would never ever have oral or regular sex, then they're in for a rude awakening when that kids' hormones are on fire at 16.

Check out the STD photos below:

And as for Teens "coming & going when they please"--I'll tell you what my momma would have done: my momma would have told me "If youre grown enough to come & go as you please--then you're grown enough to get a parttime job and start paying some bills around here". And yes, I was working partime at age 14, and paying my own phone bills at that age--but I did not come and go "as I pleased" because my momma would have boxed me like Mike Tyson.
Peace

Answer 2

All teenagers think they should be able to come and go as they please.. what you need to do to prevent STD's and AIDS.. is keep tabs on them... you're their parent, and until they're out of your house, you have a right to know where they are and who they're with at all times.

Answer 3

I have a 17 year old and I tell him how happy or relieved I am when he calls to tell me where he's at you can't keep them home but you can make them feel like they have a choice I tell him I worry about him when I don't hear from him and I think it has made him a little more self conscious about letting me know where he's at. he doesn't mind calling and just saying hey mom I'm ok. oh and I almost forgot it is ok for you to buy him protection make light about and some day he will thank you.

Answer 4

Following up on your points: Having read numerous questions and indeed, answers, on the subject of sex from young (mostly US) teenagers, the quality of sex instruction in that country is pathetic. Very few of them know little or nothing about prevention, AIDS, STD's, pregnancy and such. They are all digging their graves with you know what...............

Answer 5

I think its great that you're so proactive about this. Too few people realize that they can do something to change the world.

I have no ideas to help you, but I'd like to wish you my best of luck. Your drive is truly admirable.

Answer 6

They not only think it they do it. Not all. Most teenagers I know are great. Only ones who can do something are their parents, but they do not seem to care or do not know what to do.

Answer 7

keep tab on teens daily activities and his mental status