If you heard that someone you just started dating has herpes, how do you find out w/out offending them?

Question

My friend just started dating someone she likes and has heard that he has herpes. They aren't sleeping together but she's freaked out now (I would be)! How do you bring that sort of topic & question up?? How does she know if he does tell her the truth?

Answer 1

There is no easy answer to this question... Although it is a difficult subject to discuss with someone, for her own piece of mind she should gain some kind of conermation. The easiest way would be to express her feelings for him before she asks the direct question... Ex: Hey Joe, can I talk to you... I really like you alot, and I want to be with you, but I heard a rumor that you might have herpes and its kindof scaring me a little... Herpes is a virus which causes legions to appear on the skin of the infected area, and it is only transmitable through direct contact with the sores. (or in the case of genital herpes through an infected individuals body secretions.) Cold sores and canker sores are both forms of herpes, yet contrary to mith are not caused by the same virus as genetal herpes.

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Answer 3

By the time you get anymore answers from this site you're at risk to develop herpes or may have the virus in your system. Once it goes in it cannot come out. Once you get any virus you can become prone to getting HIV or HPV. If you are already dating and kissed him than yes, you have contacted the virus only if he has had a sore inside his mouth. Every one has a virus in their immune system. This is why some can rid it quicker while others don't. Like the old saying goes.."better safe than sorry" as for me I am in the same situation as you which I had a blind date and the guy never mention that he had a cold sore on his mouth. As he hugged me I started to worry. Of course, he made an excuse that it was something else. I didn't want to hear the excuses. Ok, but I hope his mouth didn't touch my hair nor skin. Ok, just a slight paranoid so if I am slightly paranoild than I can imagine what you're going through.
By this time, you should have gotten the test and if not, here's another suggestion but you can say you need to go to the Health Clinic and get your birth control pills and you need a ride. Ask him to drive you there and make sure he goes into the examining room with you but if he refuses than you GOT your answer that he has STD. Also, let the nurse or staff be aware that he has Herpes and maybe they can convince him to get tested right than and there. Good luck...if anyone reads this can someone answer this question but can you get Herpes by hugging or touching your outer skin with the sore like touching of the cheeks or kiss on the cheek?

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Answer 5

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Answer 6

Hello,

If she is dating him, then as a responsible young woman, she should tell him that if he wants to be her boyfriend, then they will both go to the nearest Department of Health--together--and both of them will agree to get tested for STD's and allow each of them to be present when the Doctors give each other the Results. Young women need to empower themselves and realize that their bodies belong to them, not their boyfriends. They must both get tested for HIV, Herpes Simplex 1 and 2, HPV (genital warts), Gonorrhea & Chlymydia, and all other sex diseases. She can call 411 and ask for the Department of Health, and they might test them both for free. If he refuses to get tested and starts making her feel bad by saying "I dont have anything, why dont you trust me", that means he doesn't respect her and he she should dump him.

Most important, tell your friend that she should NOT kiss that guy until after their test results come back clean. Herpes can be contracted by kissing. It can causes painful cold sores on her mouth, and she will have them for the rest of her life.

In my opinion, it makes more sense that people shouldnt have sex with anyone until they get married to someone who has been tested for HIV, and all STD's. There are too many diseases going around, and it doesnt make sense to get an STD that will last for the rest of your life for some relatonship that probably wont last.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

As an RN student, I had clinicals at an STD clinic. It is highly recommended that, before having sex with a new partner, you should both be tested. Take your friend to a doctor or clinic with the reasoning behind it as you're being safe and responsible.

Answer 9

If she cant ask him that personal of a question then they either need to work on that or she needs to get out..Gosh it amazes me how people can get naked (like that is not personal) but cant ask a question..

Answer 10

ask em or get em tested