Why are we so afraid to tell our partners that we have or could possibly be infected w/an STD?

Question

Why is it so hard to warn our partner or anyone who we might be sexually active with in the future that we might have an STD? Is it fair to the other person if you knowingly are withholding this information. Why would you want to subject someone you care about, to hurt the same way that you do? If you could prevent someone from being infected, how would you? Do you disclose this information before or after you have already encountered the other person? How would you feel if someone did this to you? What would you do if someone knowingly gave you a disease? What if it was an uncureable disease? Do you think your life would be ruined. Would you do the same to someone else b/c it was done to you? Have you ever confronted a person who gave you an STD? Did they apologize?

Answer 1

I think it is important to tell the person you have a STD if you are going to be intimate. I've had "h" for eleven years and dating over the years hasn't been easy. Sometimes I withhold information until a couple of weeks into the relationship. Then when I tell the guy, he freaks out, which I am used to (just recently from experience). So I'd probably tell the person fairly quickly or he'll get pissed then say mean things to you on the online personals site. Oh and if you post an online profile, perhaps you should put the number 437737 in the title so only "those" ppl know what you're talking about can email you. I'd rather be rejected from a guy who doesn't have it or know what it is than give it to a "clean" guy and be mad at me for the rest of their lives.
When I first got it, I was pissed for a year, but eventually got over it and got used to it. I've confronted the guy who gave it to me back in the 1990's and he insisted that he didn't have it, but when he cheated on me he had sex w/a girl that had it. So most likely he has it now and knows what it's like to have a STD. It may help if you have a someone to talk to about the "h". At least it may ease the pain a little.
I wish you luck in telling your partner if you decide to tell.

Answer 2

First of all, if you have an STD you must advise your partner that you have it before you become sexually active with them. It is illegal to knowingly infect your partner, as well as unfair. You can be sued for this irresponsible action.

Understanding what you have will enable you to think about how you could discuss the issue beforehand. It's only fair to allow your partner to make the decision to have a sexual relationship with you once they know you have an STD.

If you have a past partner that you have given the disease to, please inform them so they can get tested and can get proper treatment. Some diseases like HIV are deadly to not only your partner and their partner, but to their unborn child as well. Herpes can be passed on to an unborn child and cause life long problems as well. You need to be responsible for your actions, both past and present.

If someone knowingly gave me an infection, I would be furious with them. I would feel that they had no regard for my well-being and I would be very upset about the fact that they made a decision about my future instead of allowing ME to make that decision. Anyone that would do such a thing is cruel and selfish.

No, I would never infect someone knowingly, just because someone else did it to me. Who in the world would think like this? The person you are knowingly infecting doesn't deserve your revenge.

If the disease was curable, it would not ruin my life, but it certainly would make me realize that I didn't take the proper precautions before jumping in the sack with them. Even though the disease would be curable, I would still be furious if my partner knowingly gave it to me. All people should be responsible about having sex by having tests for STD's, HIV and herpes before they have sex with their partner.

I did have a friend who contracted and STD from her partner, and NO he did not apologize. Instead, he denied it. That's being downright irresponsible as well as deceitful!!

Answer 3

First of all, if you're talking about herpes, for example, many people do not even know they have herpes. Sometimes, they have no symptoms or if they do have symptoms they don't appear to be anything strange. Also, they can go months without any kind of outbreak or no outbreak at all. The herpes virus can be dormant in someone for years. Therefore, it is possible to have it and not know it. However, for someone to have herpes, know it, and keep it from a partner is unforgivable. There is no excuse for it. That's one reason to practice safe sex ALWAYS. That isn't 100% certain, but better than no protection at all. How in the world could you even think about passing on herpes (or any other STD) to someone because someone else did it to you??? What would that prove? That you're irresponsible and immature?

Answer 4

As an adult if I got told by a doctor I had an std and I knew for sure I had it , no I would never ever ever give it to someone I love hate or despised on purpose.

the only thing that can ruin life is death , disease can make life unfortunate , unbearable or just plain difficult at times , none the less, life will still go on if its treated properly .
not a judgement , just my opinion , you dont have to agree dont jump on my back

Answer 5

If u care about the person, then u have to tell them. It might be hard at first because of the fear of rejection, but if they love u they will understand. and they will stay. you'll just have to use proection for the time u have sex with that person. I wasnt told and I got an STD, I hate his guts for it becuase he didnt get check before hand. so now I have to live with ****. but all I have to do is be honest which I am and use protection.