If you felt like your husband/wife cheated on you and you wanted them to go and get checked out to see if you have any std's would you do it to prove you have nothing? I know that does not clear that you didn't cheat if you have nothing but if they said to you that if you don't go and get tested i will not have sex with you anymore then would you?
I feel like i have been cheated on. I have a gut feeling that i have been done that way and i dont know what to do.
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2006-07-14 22:20:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I'm sorry. Usually gut instincts are pretty close to accurate.
If I were you, this is what I might do:
Find out if he cheated if possible...hold a hot poker to his testicles if need be. If so, then you just dump the loser...and perhaps get yourself checked for STD's.
2006-07-14 22:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by powhound 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I would get tested either way, you don't know if this was or is the first time he cheated. To have the knowledge for yourself that you are clear.
Or is it that you have or have wanted to cheat on him.
Sometimes its because you are feeling guilty that you accuse him of cheating.
Most times if you feel it its true.
If you feel he has cheated on you, you are probably right.
The only other thing is have him followed by a friend he wouldn't know. Or private detective.
OR just ask him and watch closely for his answer, its all in the body language and the eyes. You will know.
And for him saying "there's no sex till you get it done"
tell him you don't care whether you are two are having sex or not as its obvious that he is getting it else where.
Good luck to both of you.
2006-07-15 10:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by AUSSIE AUSSIE AUSSIE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you have any proof that you have been cheated on? Are you being insecure? Ask your partner up front. If he/she says no and you still feel like it is a lie, then you really need to seek counseling for either your insecurities or for the fact that you have a cheating, lying partner.
Even though you haven't said it in your question, it seems that you have either been cheated on in the past by someone or done wrong by your current partner. To be able to sustain a relationship, there has to be honesty and trust on both parts. Good luck.
2006-07-15 05:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, If I'm being accused of something I absolutely did not do and my husband could not trust me enough to accept the answer I'm giving him well then there is a big problem. Relationships are built on trust until otherwise is proven. And if he didn't want to have sex anymore sounds l ike divorceville for me. If there is good reason thought for suspicion and this is something you both can work through then yes I would go get tested (together)
2006-07-15 05:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by kitkool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trust doesn't seem to be there. Whether you were cheated on or not, there's some reason why you think that. Whatever it is, you should try to work on it. If the other person doesn't want to, you need to do what you feel is right. It's hard to have a relationship where there's a lack of trust.
2006-07-15 05:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Threatening to keep sex away creates more problems for you. You may keep it away longer than you want and still not get any test while someone else is getting your stuff. Everyone is different. You should just ask if they are cheating.
2006-07-15 05:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk about it. Either way you'll find out if your doubts are confirmed or not. And if you to love each other, then maybe he won't mind.
But remember, it's a double-edged sword, would you do the same, if asked for by your spouse?
Wish you a happy life together!
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2006-07-15 08:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Starreply 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your own peace of mine and safety definately have tests. A person doesn"t sleep with just 1 think the person whom your partner may have slept with has slept with others it continues on. It takes a while for some tests to show up but please its safer to have tests, (eg) you wouldnt want to get pregnant and find out you had picked up something and now passing on to your un born child.
2006-07-15 05:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by a mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it down deep inside that your partner is cheating to hell with the tests leave.
relationships aren't based on test results they are based on trust. If you don't have that you don't havce a relationship.
2006-07-15 05:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by Leather M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Std tests can be inconclusive. Time for the heart to heart thing. Or hire a gumshoe.
2006-07-15 05:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by helixburger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋