How do I cope with this have you got any tips for me?
2006-07-13 12:46:30 · 18 answers · asked by Charley G 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Respiratory Diseases
My mum died of emphysema 2 years ago, they thought at first it was lung cancer. I made a point of telling my mum everyday how much I loved her, how beautiful she was and how much I appreciated every single sacrifice she made to keep me and my 5 siblings together, dad died when we were young, she was a truly wonderful person, and I miss her so much. I hear her voice when I think of her, I see her face when I see my own son he is so much like her, in his features, and I just feel so sad for you sweetheart, what I am trying to say beauty is that although you must feel so absolutely devastated, you have to be strong and be there for your mum, my mum knew she was dying, and the time that we had left together was so precious, I have some beautiful memories of her and the last 3 years of her life, I also have some heartbreaking memories as well. I try desperately hard not to think of these. I just end up crying,.God bless you and your beautiful mum sweetheart and may you find a hidden strength to get you through this, you are in my prayers, and I just want to send you both a hug xxxxxx Thinking of you and your mum and family be strong..
2006-07-13 14:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by mams brown eyed gel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take a day at a time and make the most of every day you have together. They can do more for cancer now and with your help your mother can fight this illness. Think positive and pray each day. Ask at your doctors surgery or at the hospital if there is a support group in your area you may be able to talk to other people who have been through it. God bless you both and good luck
2006-07-13 12:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly55freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please ignore that sick answer from brittini... I've reported it as abuse.
I've known many people who have died of cancer... only one was a smoker...
Be strong for her... however much it hurts... and it will hurt a lot more yet, but for her sake, be brave, be strong and enjoy every precious moment with her. Don't look for answers as to why, or for blame as to who, or what, just be the loving daughter that you are and that she needs right now.
Let her talk or not, as the moods may take her. Say all the things inside your heart and don't hold back, you'll regret it all your life if you clam up inside now.
Your mum will not be lost to you forever... as a Christian and a medium I know this very well... she is merely going on ahead and when you have lived your life out to the full as God intends for you... she will be waiting for you.
I've had the proof of this all my life... and though you may not believe me now, one day you will.
Whether you believe or not, ask God inside your heart to afford you both the strength to go through this together, place your trust in him alone and you'll be amazed how strong you'll grow.
Let her spend her last days, or months, or years, and there could be many years, if they've caught it in time... if it goes into remission... doing it exactly, the way she wants to do it, even if you disagree with her choices.
It is her life and her body... her right of passage to decide whether she wants help and medication, treatment, or not, and she is stronger than you know.
When and where it really matters, she will draw on hidden strengths, that you have yet to see.
God bless you both.
2006-07-13 13:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you can talk to that you have confidence in and make sure you talk when you feel like it. Keep a diary if you must, that way your thoughts are on paper. Spend time with your mum as much as you can, but make sure you take breaks too so you can get back to nature and try to be yourself.
Therapists can give you many many coping mechanisms for when things get difficult, perhaps start to see one now, just once a month or whenever necessary. Often, an ear that is unfamiliar yet trained with this is the best person to speak to.
2006-07-13 12:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is "brittni" above talking about? the devil?!
unfortunately, yes it's still possible to get lung cancer even if a person never smoked, like dana reeve (christopher reeve's wife). if this has been detected early, then we are praying for a chance. im sorry to hear about your mother's condition, i don't know what i'll do if it happened to my own mother. but be there for her, spend every single day with her and take care of her.
im still weirded out by that girl above -- that's unbelievably insensitive of her. if she doesn't have anything nice to say, or does not know how to symphatize, then she should have just kept her mouth shut. have you seen her other answers? she's a joke. hope this got your mind off the condition for a while.
2006-07-15 08:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me start by saying I am in remission from stage 4b Lymphoma now for about a year. It was the hardest thing ive ever had to do in my life. It was also horrible for my wife and family. She suffered as much as me if not more. Support groups help, they will give you ways to cope with upcomming problems and ideas on ways to contiue life with treatment. You will also hear stories from other people and what the did to help. The best thing for us was church, For the first time in my life I really, truely, put my faith in god. With the help of the church and all of the wonderfull poeple my wife and I came through and our lives have been richer ever since. She is going to need you, as a friend and daughter, some of the poeple you think will be there for her will disapear. I found out who my friends were real quick. The people I would have told you were my best friends not once came to see me or even called. Be strong for her, and in front of her. She will need your strength.
Aaron
Cancer survivor
27
Texas
2006-07-13 12:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by asmelton_78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to say I am sorry for your pain. Where there is life there is hope. Get all the information you can on the type of cancer she has and make sure to outline some coping plans for you and her based on realistic facts. Talk to hospice and get all the support you can! Miracles happen everyday!
2006-07-13 12:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by motherpeanutbutterbutinsky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 08:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by tine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People seem to think that if you smoke, you will always die of lung cancer, its not true. My grandad smoked 40 players a day and died of old age at 87, Cancer is indescriminate. You can only increase your risks of getting it, but you cant lower your risks of getting it. Just be there for her, as long as you are with her, you can do nothing more...
2006-07-13 12:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by big_dave_x 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad as it is..alot of people are diagnosed with lung cancer who do not smoke...There are Cancer Groups in ur area that will help you cope with ur Mom's illness...I was diagnosed with Leukemia and now in remission...call them...Take Care and my best to ur beloved Mother
2006-07-13 12:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by celine8388 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋