How do they not notice?????

Question

ok...i've been veg. for a while now and i haven't told my parents because they never will support me...they think certain things are stupid and retarted and that includes veganism.Pretty much i've been fending for myself trying to find things that i eat. I'm really surprised that they haven't noteced?? What should i do?

I'm 14 i wouldn't be able to get a job and buy my own stuff..i hate talking to my parents they doubt everything i do and think it's wrong...my mom thinks i'm on drugs or making myself through up because i'm dropping weight..

Answer 1

well, if that's the worst thing your parents have to deal with regarding you, I think they're (and you) are doing pretty good. :-) Enjoy it and maybe even share with them some yummy vegan recipes to show them that there's life after dead cow.

Answer 2

You have more of a problem than just what's for lunch if you can't talk about this with your parents. If they have not noticed a radical change in your diet, how much care are you actually getting from these people?

Frankly, if you were my underage child, i would not support veganism either because it lacks essential nutrients. You have to take supplements on the vegan diet or you will become ill. Not might, will. A vegetarian diet that includes dairy and/or eggs, neither of which require killing an animal, however, can be perfectly fine. I would urge you to consider that we come equipped with an omnivore's digestive system for a reason.

However, if you are committed to being vegetarian, of whatever stripe, you need to be honest with your family if you are living at home. If you seriously think they will refuse to feed you, you need to let the authorities know.

Your best approach is to do your homework and present the reasons you have for this diet and to prove to them you know how to eat a balanced and healthy vegetarian diet. The USDA and American Dietetics Association websites have lots of help with this. Make lists of meal suggestions that will accomodate you and the rest of your family. If you learn how to cook some yummy veggie food and cook it for your family, that might go a long, long way.

But very seriously, you need to get help from a counsellor or minister or social worker if you can;t talk about something this important with your parents.

I'm only vegetarian for Lent for religious reasons, but one of my kids was veggie for several years throughout her teens. It was no big deal and her meals weren;t much of a problem since we ate that way often anyway. What will help you get acceptance is to be tolerant of those who are not vegetarian. If you start spouting extremist PETA stuff, you will not convert anyone and will antagonize everyone. Try to emphasize the positives of your diet instead of howling about the evils of theirs.

By the way, the word is "retarded" and it's really not terrible nice to use a mental condition people cannot help as a slur.

Answer 3

Well the way I see it you have two choices....either get a job and buy some of your own groceries or tell your parents that you've made the choice to be a vegan, explain to them WHY you made the choice (and it better not be "well because Ashley is") and if you were my child and you had some good reasons I would support you in it and try to make sure that you were still getting the proper nutrition without eating meat. The problem with a lot of vegan is the lack of nutrition, if you have a plan to address that issue, either by having your parents buy extra groceries or getting a part time job and helping out with different food choices and preparation. If it doesn't mean extra expense or extra work for them.....what difference does it make to them?

Answer 4

Buy your own food, grow it, but there is still a problem with genetically modified fruits and veg that you can't avoid. They certainly have already cross pollinated with fruits and veg that wasn't modified. It's shocking that food grown now has less nutrition than it did 50 years ago.

My mom grew me up veg, back then I was begging for McDonalds... according to her. Now we both eat meat but very rarely and lean more towards no meat. After eating meat, there's usually a nasty feeling of haven't eaten bad food, so it's very rare. I never buy it at the supermarket and she usually buys veggie patties etc. I dont remember the last time she purchased meat at the super market either, but sh'e more likly the one to order a hamburger. I haven't had a hamburger for so many years I can't remember when I stopped. More than 10 years.

Answer 5

Honestly, your parents are not mind readers. They might have an idea and might be trying to be nice by not saying anything though. If you want them to notice, then maybe you should stop and think about why you want them to notice. Do you feel unnoticed? Are you trying to do things that your parents don't like just to get attention? If so then that's the real issue. But if you believe in vegetarianism then you should be proud of it. And just explain to them that's how you feel. Try not to get angry and stick to your choice. Just ask that they respect your decision because as you get older you will have to learn to make all your lifes decisions and this is practice for the future.

Answer 6

I think you should just tell them "hey mom, next time we go grocery shopping can we get some more vegetables and fruits? I want to start eating healthier" and if they ask you to go into more detail just tell them you are a vegan. If they don't support you and wont buy you food it won't be any different than it is now with you trying to find something to eat. Veganism is hard, my friend is a vegan and I don't know WHAT she eats lol but just be honest with them and maybe you can try to sneak some stuff into the basket when you shop?

Answer 7

When you do "come clean", do it with some material to back you up. Either, Meat Your Meat DVD from Peta (free, graphic yucky!). Brochure from www.veganoutreach.org (I love these guys, request a free starter kit, very level headed) or the big guns if they are readers The Food Revolution by John Robbins (can be borrowed from the library). You should get yourself educated on nutrition so you don't live on carbs and butter. Eat your vegetables!

Answer 8

You could try asking your mom to pick a few things up at the store like more fruits and vegetables, eggs and peanutbutter.
You could always tell them you're trying to eat healthier, and staying away from fattening hamburgers, etc.
If you find yourself dropping pounds you can also begin using real butter, 2% milk, etc.
I think eventually, you'll need to tell them so you can begin getting more soy in your diet and experience some good stuff like morningstar and bocca :) Good Luck!!!
p.s. don't listen to patricia & a few others! ;) lol

Answer 9

Go to the library and check out a dozen books on vegetarianism. Leave the books where your parents can't help but notice. When they ask you about them tell them you are studying up on how to be vegetarian.

Answer 10

Just sit them down and tell them that this is what you are, and that you need their support and understanding., and the last thing you need is to be judged by your own parents. Others do that enough already!!!

Answer 11

how long have you been veg? well i think if i went veg. at first my parents might not like it but they luv me so eventually they would come to terms with it and would support me. (i don't feel like i have that much support right now by my mom cuz she doesn't like my type music and so she wasn;t sure bout buying me a bass. but now i have it she i don't think is still sure about my music. and i wish i had more support from her. but i know she luvs me so eventually she will support me on it i think or i hope...) but that ia weird that your parents didn't notice yet. like i said how long have you been veg? you could tell them or make it obvious ur a veg. and see their reaction. hey if they don't like it they can't shove meat down ur throat. but tell them if ya want them to know.