Do you have a favorite child? Do you show it?

Answer 1

lets start by saying that you shouldn't have favorites, but in reality if we're being truthfull then we proborably do have a favorite. Not in a selfish sense but alot of it has to do with circumstances. When my fist son was born both he and my wife nearly died in childbirth, i the suffered from depression for about 2 years after (maybe post traumatic stress) so when my second son was born i was a lot more distant from it all. I held back on any emotions. I love my sons dearly but when i go to check on them in the night for some reason i head for my first born, first. Does any of this make sense? It's hard to explain but I need my fisrt born to be happy and safe, I'm more stand offish with my second born, but love them both equally. Maybe i'm scared of getting close to someone and then losing them.

Answer 2

I don't have a favorite child but I know I treat my two girls differently. To the point that my husband has noticed it and mentioned it. My second daughter had a few problems when she was a baby, from wearing a helmet to reshape her skull to almost having surgery on her little bum... My first born was always a healthy, happy, baby girl so I tend to coddle the second child and expect more from the first. But this is not because I love her any less. I have begun to set aside time for each of them individually to read, play, sing together so that they both can see how special they are to me.

Answer 3

i don't have kids but i know of someone that does show favor. my bf's dad doesn't even try hiding the fact that he loves his younger son more. it hurts my bf so much but what can he do about it? they're both over 18 now so i guess the parents reserve the right to have a favorite child and showing it too. my bf's dad bought his younger bro a new car while he's still driving a '95 car. it hurts more because he's the older child and he's been driving longer. i guess my recommendation as a 3rd point of view is that if you're going to show it... show it and not try to hide it because once the inferior child sees that you're trying to hide something he/she would b more mad once they find out the truth. this only applies to adults... not to lil' kids because that could mess up their mentalities in the future

Answer 4

If i did have more than one child i would not favor one over the other cause that is just wrong. I know people that do that and it hurts the others feelings.

People shouldn't have favorites

Answer 5

I do not have a favorite, but I do treat each of my kids differently. Each one has their individual needs, and temperments, and they need different kinds of attention. If you have a strong child who doesn't need to be cuddled all the time and one who likes to be cuddled.. that doesn't mean that one or the other is a favorite.. you're just reading your childs specific wants and needs and making sure that each one has what they need.

Answer 6

I have seven children. I love each for his or her unique qualities. I don't believe in favorites, and I discipline myself not to play favorites. All our children are grown, and on their own. We have two grandchildren. :) I hope to have a lot more. Our oldest is a computer programmer and lives in New England. His hobbies are autocross, photography, and line dancing. Our next oldest is married and loves horses. She is very good at art, and she used to play the flute. Our next oldest is adopted. He is a phenomenal musician, and plays violin, viola, trombone, piano, organ, and handbells, and conducts. For a career, he is an opera singer. Our next is also adopted. He is very gifted with his hands and with medical things. He is a paramedic. I don't know how many lives he has saved, but a lot. Next, we have a daughter who is married and they adopted a little boy who is getting close to a year in age. She played the viola and the flute, and got three associates degrees in various fields of business, with honors. She lives in Oklahoma. Then we have another son. He has a fourth degree black belt in taekwondo and teaches. He works as an installer for a cable company, and is married and has a son. Our youngest is an excellent classical guitarist, has a second degree black belt in taekwondo, and spent a year in Iraq, helping rebuild the country. I already told you about him. :) Our family is very close. They are so close that if they need to do it to share expenses, they will live together. This includes the married ones. I am very proud of them for this.

Answer 7

i don't have a favorite child but if i did i would not show i grew up in a house hold where this went on and me and my sister constantly fought about this issue as we grew older we both have resentments towards the other parent like me and my mother are closer and always talk and have a good time together and me and father always argue and barely even talk to each other my sister and father are a lot closer than me and him and vice

Answer 8

I love both of my baby girls with my whole heart. I don't pick and choose favorites; they are both a precious part of me and my husband and I would die for them. Parents shouldn't choose who is the better child; each child has unique characteristics and qualities.

Answer 9

I am not sure if we have "favorites" we admire certain things about each kid cause they are totally different than each other. I think it all boils down to the connection between parent and kid. And how the kid treats the parent. We are all human and tend to lean more to where we are treated with respect, love and concern.

Answer 10

Yes...but I only have the one