I feel anger with this situation but still i feel a need to help my brother as he is a delinquent. But then again its not easy as i have a family now, and its not easy as he is living with us in a small apartment. Yes he is changing for the better, but still being newly married we need personal time together. I know i have to help my brother but i have this anger towards my parents for neglecting their role. How do i balance all these, i feel so frustrated.
2006-07-06 22:51:38 · 8 answers · asked by gpetit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its easy to give an advise, but still ..
Friend, its all about relations, you should take care of your bro. He is young and wil be feeling more lonely. You hav your own family to love and to be loved, but what about him?
I think no problem exists which cannot be solved with mutual understanding and talks. Think from his side, and do talk to your betterhalf about the situations. Todays girls can adjust better.
Sometimes that will bring back your parents also to you!!
Good Luck
Sathu
2006-07-06 23:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by sathumenon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and your brother and clearly tell them that you have your family now and that you can help out as much as you can but it's time for your parents to start acting like adults and take care of your brother. Maybe work out some arrangements like where your brother can come stay with you every other weekend or something or for the summer. Like somehow work out a deal with your parents like that. Please don't hold what you have to say in otherwise it'll be a huge blow up and it'll be ugly, believe me I've done that and I didn't talk to my dad for a week after wards and it wasn't a good feeling. You just need to have an open communication with your parents and brother. Good luck!!
2006-07-07 01:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a very good person. Unfortunately, when parents divorce it is not easy for anyone in the family, especially the children. You do not say how old your brother is but I am sure he appreciates your efforts to give him a stable home life and hopefully he will continue to improve his behavior. Have you tried to talk to your parents to ask one of them to consider caring for him or at least having him stay over weekends so as to give you and you new husband some quality time together. Surely one of them cares enough about your brother to do this? In the meantime, take each day as it comes, be proud of yourself, what you are doing for your brother is admirable!
2006-07-06 23:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very responsible sister to your younger brother. Keep it this way. He needs to stay with close relative. Try manage your privacy so that his presence will not affect your relationship.
I can't advise on how to alleviate your frustration but I'm sure it is part of life and you have done the right thing by taking care of your brother.
2006-07-07 00:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by jemmie_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be bums. You should do your best to raise your brother, Later on in like you will be happy that you already have the experience to deal with raising a family.
2006-07-06 22:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there,your are a rare one in a million great person,when you need alone time find a relative or friend to relieve you for a night or afternoon,not many people in this world take on challenges they dont have to.KUDOS to you,your AWESOME!!!!!Good luck God bless;O)
2006-07-07 01:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you taking your time as a resposibility to your brother eventhough you have you your own family...
2006-07-06 23:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel frustrated.
ok-go hit your dad in the neck and maybe knee your moms ovary.
2006-07-06 22:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋