she's bitter with me i dont know how to handle her....its just the only reason is that my father left us when i was only 1 year old. she doesnt care about me since then...not even asking if im ok...or still alive.... but even she was like that still i love her because she was my mother. .....but now she left me without any word.....not even goodbye......is it that fine????
2006-07-06 22:01:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, that sounds very hard.
I also think you should breathe deeply, cry if you need to (it's ok), and move on with your life. Someday you mom may think better and make a move for reconciliation, but dont' count on it, and don't force it (when you locate her). I know you love her, and I am sure deep inside she also loves you, or she wouldn't have raised you. Things will work out in the end. If they haven't worked out, it's not the end.
2006-07-06 22:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unforgiveness, anger, and bitterness, puts a person heart in bondage. With a closed heart you are not free to love anyone else. You have done great by keeping you heart open to love your mother unconditionally. I apologize on your mother's behalf, because I am a mother and I realize that we are not perfect and we do make mistakes with our children. Just keep the love that you have for her in your heart, and once she gets tired of running from her past, she'll return to you.
2006-07-06 22:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let the matter be the way it is if distance with you gives her peace let her be that way.
may be she will realise that you are imp part of her life through this .she is bitter but life has made her that way she has to be alone for sometime to get over things. your dad must have really
broken her down.
be brave let her decide if she wants you in her life . you also need to accept the fact that it is not going to be normal with you.
best wishes
2006-07-06 22:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by sowmiya i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get worry about this you just look at your life but don't forget. You think that she is a good teacher for you where she thought you about feelings of your heart, about love. by thinking your mother you never do the mistake what she did. carry on with your life. even though if she comes to you, you just lookafter her but never ignore her. till that dont care her you just care for your life
2006-07-06 22:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem more sorted in life than she is. handle her like you'd handle your kid. Get mad where appropriate, insist on some discipline and communication and be there for her when she needs someone.
You have a tough job, but go for it - we get only one mother.
Good luck!
2006-07-06 22:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Vidyut Kale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probaly still bitter about your father leaving and maybe she blames you for it, I would let her come to you and just keep your distance maybe she will come around
2006-07-06 22:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl.....there was a story like this.....the boy wants his father to care about him....but his father was very busy working.....then,the boy kept on asking money from his father for many days....one day,he called his father and gave him his savings....he told his dad that he will buy even one hour of his time.....his dad was touched....and he said that he really loves him and asked apology to him......
2006-07-06 22:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine Ann Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you love her, if so , accept her as she is, you can not be upset, i don't know how old you are and what you are, i you share we can pray and find and sloutions for what your could do next. JESUS love you
2006-07-06 22:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by raja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.... but just move on with your life and know you're better off without her. Good luck:)
2006-07-06 22:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isn't..she is awful mother..you are right..you should love her and respec her cause he is your mother..but be aware that she treats you badly and never allow again for such treatment anyone, even her!!
2006-07-06 22:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by oliwia1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋