Is it rite 2 marry a person witout the permission of parents and by leaving the house and going with him?

Question

the guy is entirely other caste and my parents have the fear of spoling of their name. I am a gujarati and he is tamilian. but we love each other very much. will this step of mine bring any bad things to my family as i also have an younger sister and an younger brother.

my parents tell that if i marry that guy my sis will not be getting a good guy in our caste to marry

Answer 1

ofcorase you parents are afraid the it will spoil ur name beofre theirs and it will also affect your sisters especiallly if they are younger try convincing you parents or wait maybe they will lena if ur guy proves to them how gold he really is

Answer 2

If god wanted to force his will, he would not have made us different. He would have created robots. He has made us all different to experience his own self in different forms, remember god is formless. U r born with the UNION of 2 bodies which r the children of gos themselves and have the same choices as they have, FREEDOM. When u r the child of god and they r the children of god, they can exercise their freedom and u can exercise their freedom. But one who has not exercised their freedom, have not succeeded in the game of life, have not found their truth, will always find someone to control over, someone to live their dreams through. Parents are like caretakers for the gift of God, form of God, Isn't that what they say - bacha to bhagwaan kaa roop hai (child is the form of god). Forgive them for they do not know who they are, do not hold grudge against them, they are leaving out of fear of others will say, thats what their parents offered them and that is what they picked. U can exercise ur choices. And whatever u choose is ur choice, to go ahead and do what u wanna do and experience ur life or fulfill their desires and then keep making ur life miserable and ur spouse's (the man they choose) and the world around. In choosing ur friend also there could be bad results, so what at least u had ur own choice.
Ur step will not bring any bad things to anyone, their rigidness is the cause of their miseries, they r the same as Arjun Singh.

Recently a girl and a boy came to me, her father is a government servant (senior) National Information Centre, he meditates, and forced the elder daughter to marry a man from his own cast. The second daughter came to me, but finally due to threats from father married the boy from their cast and in 1 month suicided. is it gods fault. By the way the girl had quietly married the friend 2 years before and on knowing this parents threatened the boy and the girl was remarried without divorce, where is the law, are these parents, and is giving in to others choice by force a solution. They believe god is one, they believe it's all god's doing, then why is ur LOVE not god given for them, why thay do not except it. I am with u, u can both contact me for any assistance.
People have waited long for me to resurface, I am here and now, I am back, I can only help those who help themselves. I am not in the church, not in the temples, not in gurudwaras, not in mosques, or aashrams, I am inside of u and all. This time in Delhi, India.
Love

Answer 3

I'm not familiar with your culture. But, from what you said, it sounds like there may be some adverse affects on your family if you go ahead with the marriage. Could you wait until your younger siblings have been able to marry then get married? Would moving to a different place solve the problem? Would you be willing to move to be with this guy?


(Mehmed Emin...quit spamming questions with your irrelevant answers. If you want to post your little proof of god create a new question or find a suitable place to answer)

Answer 4

Hello, I am Mehmed Emin YILDIZ from Türkiye.

Yesterday, by the yahoo's question pages, I asked a question or dictated that I can prove existance of Allah giving logical and scientifical examples. And you infromed that you are interested in searcinh for Him.

Firstly I thank you so much because of interests abouth Allah.

Here I will give some very easy examples from the normal life. This is my way to explain His existances giving daily events or example that all we know and see in the life. Here are some...

One of the logical examples: If there is something or movement, there must be a "maker" or "First Mover" of that thing.

First example: We are using computer right now. How did that computer exist? Of course, some engineers studied, calculated, designed and finally programmed that computer,right. If this is the real, logical and scientific way, can anybody say that, that computer was made by causes and effects or by itself? Or, is it possible to say that a computer can be produced "without" any engineer or programmer?

Second example: We are living in a house, flat or in a building, right. Is it possible for our houses or flats to be existed without any civil engineer or architect or workers? We can add more examples like above. As a result, every existeces must have their creator. So, we are looking at the outside, we see that the atoms, nature, world, plants, animals, seas, mountains, air, light, rain, snow, sky, humanbeings, Moon, Sun, planets, galaxies, etc... whole universe exist!. Those are saying by their own language, logically, scientifically: "If there is something, something exists", there must be a "EXISTOR of those thing". As we see, understand and accept that, there have to be only One Creator of everything meaning whole universe from atoms to the galaxies, who is Only One Allah!...

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That is all for now.
Best Regardings.

Answer 5

Listen Sweety..
its only a question that your heart will answer..
I can tell you to go on because love is important... its not the most important thing in life.. but if you are going to marry that guy love is really important..
and marriage is not something wrong.. just do the thing you will feel comfortable.. any other case(no matter if you do the right thing) you will feel bad..
good luck:)

Answer 6

well it depends on whom you are going to marry. If the person you are eloping with has a good economic security and social status, it may enrich that of your's but in most of the cases parents have to suffer social segregation and disgrace. Therefore the best way is to convince your parents and marry the person of your choice with their happy consent.

Answer 7

i dont think its rite to marry someone w/o the permission of your parents. parents are the ones who paid for everything in order for you to live. its a sign of respect and love for them. maybe you should weight the situation well. think of the consequences of whatever actions you may take...

Answer 8

I think you're from India? I'm not really familiar with castes or anything...if you really love eachother, then yes, marriage shouldn't be about 'fame' or wealth...but make sure nothing bad will happen to you or your loved ones...good luck

Answer 9

of course not!you will loose their support & feel sad if not be able to contact them in the future.consult wisemen of your family too!

Answer 10

and how old are you....?????
if you are still young and still depend on your family to pay ..for your expenses..than you better think twice....but if you are old enough...you may do as you wish...but again...think of your parents....and your family and remember...love is partially hormonal....