the younger one is more belligerent and the elder one hits when it matters most... agonising the younger one even more.....
2006-07-06 21:49:40 · 18 answers · asked by relaxplease2005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't look for younger and elder Just find out what is going on and why they are fighting. Do never let ur children know they are wrong as it is the matter which may go wrong not the children. So find the cause of fighting and tell them what was wrong in the matter. teach them a lesson out of any fighting and love them more. Always end the fighting with a laugh blaster. i.e. Happy Ending.
cheers
2006-07-06 22:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by illa123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For God's sake don't pick sides! First they shouldn't be fighting. So stop them, then sit down and figure out what the heck is going on! Tell them they need to sort it out. You just be the referee in case things get out of hand. You won't do them any favors by solving their problems for them, but you can help them along the way. They will be better people for it in the end.
2006-07-07 06:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book, Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Farber and Elaine Mazlich.
I just read it--you don't pick sides, that will only EVER exacerbate the situation. Tell both kids to stop physically hurting each other. Then echo back to them each what they each think the problem is.
2006-07-07 04:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess of Grammar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not pick a side. I have also two boys the little one always tell me when his brother do something to him, but the oldest hit the little one when he do something to him. I give time out to both of them for fighting. after they finish their time out i talk to both of them an I explain to them how important is for them to share and at the same time respect each other. I do not now what age group are your kids,but you can talk to your older son when hi is not frustrated and tell hem that hitting is not appropriate or a option that if hi have any problem with any body he can talk to you and both of you will fine a solution.
2006-07-07 07:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
none. Let them sort it out for themselves but lay down the ground rules no hitting or touching each other. If they sort it out sit them both down together and tell them to talk calmly about whats going on be mediator not the judge and don't take sides . Just be there to make sure it goes smoothly.
2006-07-07 04:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by arianasdad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting in my opinion never solves many problems...give each child a time-out...and try to have each one "walk" in the shoes of the other, maybe; some understanding and empathy will result
Most of all children normally learn from example
2006-07-07 05:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Aldebaran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't take sides, I don't think. I think you should try to figure out why they're fighting: are they jealous or each other or just bored? Maybe read some books on parenting or help them find activites to better channel their angst?
2006-07-07 04:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Side with neither. Send both to their rooms for a bit then tell them they need to work out their problems themselves. If they can't, then back in the rooms they go.
2006-07-07 04:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this happens you should be an impatrial party and should not have to choose between your children after all they are both yours and you should care for them equally and take the side of both.
2006-07-07 05:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Rui C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Tell them they have to learn to work out their issues without verbal or physical abuse. Mediate arguments and disagreements for them to begin with, and then let them use those skills. Start taking away priviledges until they learn to communicate effectively with each other.
2006-07-07 04:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋