be converted as a muslim or stay as a christian?

Question

i am devoted christian before. since i met my fiance in singapore which is a muslim, i must be converted in muslim religion in order for me to marry him. but i am in a confusion since i am brought up as a christian and suddenly turning my back to what i believe, but i really love him. what should i do????????

Answer 1

You should stay faithful to Christ. By asking this question it's obvioius that you do not have a real relationship with Jesus, or you would never consider leaving Christianity for a man. Please go to your church and ask someone there to lead you to salvation. Do not leave your faith for a man-your eternal destiny is at stake.

Answer 2

I am an Imam and I deal with matrimonial questions very often. I have two things to say about your question.

First - there is no prohibition in real Islam from a Muslim man marrying a Christian or Jewish woman. She does not have to convert and anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong. It says in the Quran that there is "no compulsion in religion" and this verse refers specifically to forced conversions in order to marry.

Second - It is my experience, although I could be wrong in this case, that most of the time when an Islamic family insists on the conversion of an intended spouse it is really because the family does not approve of the person, for whatever reason, and is really using this hurdle as an excuse to thwart the marriage. Most of the time the family is not really religious and is usuing a cultural practice that has no real basis in Islam as an impediment. There is an easy way to decipher this, does the family go to Jummah prayers each Friday? Do they pray five times? Do they pay Zakat? Are they strict about dress codes? If the answers to most of these are "no" then their insistence on conversion is a ploy.

I always hope that people who educate themselves about ANY religion will find a deep peace and clarity for their lives in that religion. For me that religion is Islam and I hope for many others it is too, but I celebrate any true deep personal beliefe in one almighty creator, sustainer, and forgiver!

Lastly, let me say this, not to discourage you but to put some reality into this discussion. My experience is that well over 50% of the mixed religion marriages I know of end up in divorce, whether or not either party converts. Please be careful.

Peace and Blessings,

Salim

Answer 3

Well, I'm no expert......but I feel the only you can answer that question. Maybe you should try and ask your self some of these questions below, but know that the Bible states that you should not be unequally yoked. I'm sure that's the same in any religion. Do you feel like you are being spiritual fed where you are? Do you believe and can accept the beliefs that Muslims accept? Is he worth it. Last but not least.....Did God send this man to you or did you go looking for him? The word of God states,"He that findth a wife, findth a good thing." its not the other way around. There are several differences in each religion...as long as they magnify the Lord I don't see a problem....as long as you agree with the beliefs. Good luck and God Bless you.

Answer 4

Muslim men are allowed in their religion to marry Christian women.

Conversion is not just an act similar to applying for a credit card. If you want to, try to study Islam as much as possible, and search your soul. If you find that you can accept it, do so. But if you don't 'convert with your heart', then don't convert at all. Do not live your life a lie. It's not worth it. If your fiancé (or his family) insist, you need to question their motives and you need to question if he is truly the right person for you.

I am married to a Muslim and will offer you any additional information you might need. I can be e-mailed by clicking on my avatar.

Answer 5

I'm a muslim and I am also a convert. Nowhere in the Quran does it say to force a nonmuslim to convert to Islam in order for marriage to take place. You are a Christian, a "person of the book", so marrying you is completely permissible. What you need to be prepared for is the fact that any children will be raised according to their father's religion. I converted on my own while my husband slep. He didn't even know I was interested in Islam. If your fiancee is pushing you to convert and putting this pressure on you, I'd steer clear of him. It seems like he is only agreeing to marriage if he can control your mind. I must say, however, that you will never have to work again if you do decide to convert. You can work if you wish to and keep all of your earnings. All financial responsibilities will be on your husband. Also, if you are not used to cooking and cleaning, then that is not your duty while married. The Prophet (PBUH) used to clean up after himself and serve himself food. He helped his wives with the housework. The men also cooked. Any children are supported solely by the father. You do need permission to go out, but that is because your safety is the responsibility of your husband and he needs to know where you are in case anything serious happens. It's not for control, its' for safety. I let my husband know where I am at all times, mainly in case he needs my help. For example, if his car breaks down he knows where I am and will call me if I am closer to him than his friends or family. Oh, and he can't force you to cover up, either. I have one sister in law who wears tight jeans and jewelry, and she is a muslim.

Answer 6

I think rainydaydreamr has got a good point - and don't mind your spouse's belief - go and ask a good christian counselor what the Bible says about "if a christian woman marries a non believer..." Did you know that they are still accepted by God through YOUR belief - somewhere in Corinthians I think!

Just keep praying and keep believing that Jesus is the only way you'll get to heaven and don't marry unless you are ABSOLUTELY SURE!

Answer 7

you should change your religion - ONLY IF because you want to follow the other religion. Your fiancee cannot force you to change your religion. Why dont you do a comparitive research on both religions and see if you should stick to the religion you've been with all these years.. or you feel that you believe the next better.

Your fiancee dont really have a choice if he's a devoted Muslim... he cannot force you whatsoever..

If you wish to keep your religion you may.. but you have to teach your children of this marriage - Islam and they have to bought up as Muslims. For him, it's wrong to not teach his fiancee his religion.. it's not wrong if afterwards his fiancee chooses to stay with her current religion.

Answer 8

Girl, I think you could summarized all the above answer.
I do not want to add pro or cons.

Just want to share with U, I have a close friend, he is Christian and married with Muslim. They had 2 wedding ceremony, in the morning by Muslim and in the afternoon they went to Cathedral.
Now they have 3 little cute sons and daughter, and live happy ever after.
Keyword: UNDERSTANDING

Answer 9

a muslim man can marry with a christian women because you are also a follower of the book. he cannot marry somebody who does not follow the book. by a follower of the book i mean a follower of one of the abrahamic religions(Christianity, Judaism, Islam).
Now I want to tell you a little about Islam. In Islam we believe to all the prophets of the abrahamic religions (Muhammed, Jesus, Moses, Joseph, Jacob, Jop, David, Salomon, etc. peace be upon them) and look at it that way when you become muslim you continue to believe in Jesus or Moses whichever you believe in and also start to believe in Muhammed. the fight christians and jews have with muslims is because Muhammes (SAW) comes from the lineage of Ishmael (as) and not from Isaac (as). Also Islamic canon is very similar to the one of Old testament because all three are the same religion and also think of it this way there was the old testament people went astray god sent the new testament and they went astray again and tried to kill the messenger. I said tried because muslims dont believe Jesus (pbuh) was killed but believe that he was taken to heaven by god to be sent back in apocalyps. then god sent the last testament with Muhammed (saw). as you can see when you become muslim you will believe in all prior abrahamic prophets and it is a logical religion. if you do some more research you will see it clearer but i have to warn you when you do research the wahhabi sect may seem very harsh in their preaching of islam because they are a very extremist sect who are mostly the saudis.

Answer 10

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Best Regardings.

Answer 11

if you truly believe in Christ, there is only one answer to this question. there is more to 'converting' than just going to a different church to pray. Muslims do not believe that Jesus was the son of God, and they do not accept him as their Saviour. to convert is to denounce Jesus. This is not to say that Muslims are not good people, but someone who truly loves you, would not ask you to deny your true beliefs either. I believe that you can live harmoniously with someone who is of a different faith than you, if you love and respect each other, but if you are being told that you are not good enough unless you denounce your Saviour, that is not a choice you should have to make. That is a choice you need to make very carefully. At the end of your life, what is going to matter more to you?