Its only a month we met and I think I started to have feelings to him. He say he love me too!! But how would I know whether he is telling the truth or not? He always wanted me to spend a night at his place. What is his intention if he deny to have sex? I'm not ready for that yet as its seems too fast eventhough I do love him! His call is decreasing and doesn't seems to bother me anymore!! Is he a jerk now/??? PLS HELP!!!! My head is spinning and I'm going nutss soon.
2006-07-06 20:36:48 · 9 answers · asked by Sammi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a deep breath. You need to put your head on straight now. I've been in love, well I am, but we won't go there, a month isn't bad time. But make sure you know him well enough. Don't make any quike moves you will regret later in life. Find out his intensions for you two and see if they match yours. Oh, and don't forget to have fun. ;)
2006-07-06 20:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely wants something from you in connection with those overnight stays, maybe not sex, maybe 'just necking', but anyway he's not getting it, and that's why he isn't calling as much anymore.
And yes, you definitely are not ready to have sex, it's definitely too fast. Sex needs to wait until you are ready to have a permanent relationship (i.e. marriage). You need to get independent of your parents, because it's got to be very clear that the person you marry is really the most important to you now, make that commitment, and only then become one flesh(1).
The reason for that is that once you do it, in a very real way there is no turning back, you create a permanent change in your relationship, and if you break up after that, you leave a bit of yourself with him, and he with you.
And I would say that the same thing applies to non-platonic activity of any kind - why take steps along the road to a one-flesh relationship if you're not sure that's what you want (i.e. engaged to be married)?(2)
So I would encourage you treat yourself and God (and for that matter this guy) with respect and find other company who will treat themselves, you and God with respect in this matter.
2006-07-07 03:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels dejected that you constantly turn him down. Just because you spend the night doesn't mean you have to have sex: I've spent the night with a girl in her dorm rooms without going sexual. It's about intimacy and affection and waking up wrapped up with a beautiful girl who trusts you enough to do that. The signlas that you're sending are that you don't want to move forward, even though it's obvious that you do.
2006-07-07 03:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by im.in.college.so.i.know.stuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-no-no.U have to stay away from this guy it's so danger 4 u to stay together with this guy.He only want your beauty.He only say that he love but how much.##This cannot be explain##.lf he didn't answer your call, stop calling him.This the way which man always use to trap the girl.Don't think so much silly thing girl.Bye-bye.
2006-07-08 04:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open to intuition and feelings.
If your heart is fighting with your head...
Listen very carefully...
Maybe your heart is just scared.
2006-07-07 03:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by therelaxationtherapist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better find someone worth your time.
2006-07-07 03:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sylvia H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just love ur body. Forget him. if he really love u, he will ask u to marry him!
2006-07-07 03:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by soad_cesc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he juz wanna have SEX with u!! 4get him my dear
2006-07-07 03:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yaay you're in love.good for him
2006-07-07 03:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋