What makes a good parent, and how do people get to that point??

Answer 1

Say what you mean....mean what you say.
Direction
Discipline
Love
and a touch of fear!
and a Mother and Father present

Answer 2

You are headed in the right direction already by asking the question. There are good books to read. They will give you insight. One thing I learned from books is that a child goes through stages of learning and independence. When they learn to walk for instance they may suddenly become very clingy for a while. Reading about the subject will give you more patience to deal with their ups and downs. I recommend using time outs instead of spankings. I needed the timeout as well to count to ten so that I would not get carried away. Timeouts teach a child to get control of their impulses. You then discuss their misbehavior to make sure they know why they are being punished. Whatever discipline you use should be consistent. They often act up worse when you are out with others because they figure out that you wont stop what you are doing to correct them. You may have to leave the restaurant or store to show them that you are serious. I used to put my son in the corner in the ladies restroom. I stood close by until his time was up. Your child is unique and careful observation of his behavior and what works will go a long way. Good luck mom.

Answer 3

Good question. And also a sad one. A tragic one for our society. We have school for almost everything. From wildlife medicine to rocket science but do we have a school for parents before they are parents. How about marriage ? They should have one too. Cause The wedding ceremony is but the graduation of courtship. What happens after that is another chapter in the couple's life. From tooth paste to credit card bills. Suddenly the problem is times 2. Don't even talk about being mom and dad and parenting.

Answer 4

From the perspective of a quasi-child (18) who just finished up his first year on his own...

A good parent is one who first and foremost allows a child to be his or her own individual. If they wish to read science fiction and you think it's fluffy, you let them. If they wish to drop the familial religion for an atheist lifestyle, let them. If they are less heterosexual than you hoped, get over it.

A parent is meant to be a mentor, not a legislator. If your child wants to have sex, smoke, or get a tattoo, do not vehemently forbid them. Talk to them about anything you disagree with. Try to explain your position, but also be open to understanding their position.

Though your child is yours in a sense, they are more their own than they are yours. You cannot make every decision for them and still expect them to grow into a functional adult. The reason teenagers are so often labeled as rebellious is that parents too often expect their children to listen unwaveringly to them and to be almost exactly like them.

In short, treat your child as an equal, not as an inferior being. You have more life experience, sure. You can share your experience, but your experience may not be enough for them. They may need to have their own experience in the matter. If they make a mistake and are hurt by it, they will learn. Your child isn't that stupid.

Answer 5

A good parent is a friend when they can be and a parent when they have to be.

I know there's so much more to it, but for me it works!

Answer 6

Love, Discipline, patience, those are all what makes a good parent. If you are a constant for your child, someone they know will always be there, no matter what, that is a good parent to me.

I am a parent, and I consider myself a good parent simply because I love my children, I care for them, nurture them, discipline them when need be, and I always, always tell them I love them.

Answer 7

A good parent should be able to care for their kids, teach their kids, and understand their kids from the child's point of view, but a parent should also know when to properly discipline their kids when they misbehave.

Answer 8

A good parent gives their child love, support, happiness, loyalty, honesty etc etc. A good parent makes their house a home whether it is a cardboard box or a house made of bricks.

Answer 9

really,i would like to take my time answering this? First i feel like parenting would come from dicipline as a child but also good manners, education and not all has to have it. But if you come from a background where a family of loving people then you would be able to give your children the unconditional love he or she needs.

Answer 10

Breastfeeding is nature's way of ensuring that mother's give their children what they need.

A good parent is made by spending enough time with their child to learn about them.

A good mother is with her child nearly 24/7, for that is what human infants evolved to require, provides human milk on demand, talks with her child, responds to her child, plays on the floor daily with her infant/toddler/preschooler.

A good parent gives their time and interest.

Answer 11

i think people who are just good people in general will make good parents...people who treat others with respect and have a positive outlook on life....so, to go along with that, they've pretty much already gotten to that point since that's just the way they are.