2006-07-06 18:34:38 · 7 answers · asked by Melissa M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
To be honest, i've said this before to my husband. the reason is because it wasn't fair that i "work" on the baby all the time and plus do all the cleaning and the cooking. i was just overwhelmed, worn out, and starting to get pissed off that he's on the computer all the time or talking to his friends on the phone or going out with his friends while i would stay home and work my *** off to keep this house clean and happy. so i told my husband that i am taking a break for the 3-day weekend and for him to please stay home with the kids and clean the house for me while i was gone. when i came home, he told me he realized how much work i had to do while he was gone. of course when i came home, the house wasn't SPOTLESS as i wuld've liked but at least he learned his lesson and helped me out with my 6-months old and the toddler by playing with them while i would cook or clean. he would learn how to make the formula for my son, and he now understands almost all of my daughter's requests when she communicates in sign language (my daughter's deaf). My suggestion for you to solve her "frustration" is to tell her to take the day off, you stay home, tke care of the baby and do whatever else is necessary to make her happy when she comes home to a beautiful home. i do have an idea for you though. let her take the day off to the spa full with mud baths and manicure, pedicure...the works. then let her come home to a home-cooked dinner that YOU made especially for her. it would make her day and make her feel guilty for saying "such things" to you.
2006-07-06 19:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by supermommyrj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a stupid wife and terrible mother -- what is the point other than to cause strife (problems) with the father of the baby (assuming you're talking about the father of the baby / husband)?
Please clarify.... but since the most important thing is for the mother to care for the baby's well-being, then bringing up ex-boyfriends can also create problems, hostility and a terrible enviroment for the little one.
This is called OBLIGATION (to make sure your baby is in the best environment possible and you don't create that by bringing up sstupid points to swipe at a man or make him jealous). Obligations are what people live up to -- no matter what -- when they are mature adults, and decent, honorable people.
So is it resentment / regret -- not really; it is someone being a pouty brat, trying to hurt someone else with an easy target because of hor crappy they feel about themselves. But a good mother forgets about how she FEELS and she takes all actions necessary to make sure her baby is raised in a loving surrounding.
2006-07-06 18:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Finnale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- she is really mad at you. I would say it is more anger and possible resentment rather than regret. She said that to deliberately hurt you.
What did you do to her to make her want to hurt you back?
Give it a day then go to her and ask what it is you can do better- that you want to help as best you can and be supportive- and then ask her what she is unhappy with in your current relationship.
Then SHUT UP and let her talk. Really- keep your yapper closed- don't argue- don't correct her, even if she is out in left field. Women need to be listened to.
2006-07-06 18:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by cigarnation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got another one for ya new girlfriend or wife. This one is going to give you huge problems in the future trust me
2006-07-06 20:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by jsnmlk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like resetnment, you need to seek counseling quick or the marriage is doomed for failure....find out why she is saying that...
2006-07-06 18:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by back2skewl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill her ,hide the body then you wont have to go to court for the kids
2006-07-06 18:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a crappy thing to say to you.
2006-07-06 18:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by rsantos19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋