I really love this girl. I always tell her I do, but it seems she still wants to stay friends. She claims it would ruin our relationship if we started dating. We've both had our deal of bad relationships, but I'm always there for her, to make her smile and laugh. We've been friends ever since we talked to each other and I actually believe this is love at first sight. I want to know if it's normal for a girl to postpone dating, even if she feels the same.
2006-07-06 18:33:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She tells me she feels the same way I do, but she's stuck on this guy, who never treated her right. She'd always tell me she's crying about his stupid ways and I always asked myself "What about me?" I guess I should keep flirting with her and stuff like that. Love (the most random emotion ever) is something I'm sort of familiar with, but never like this. She's always on my mind and I always want to talk to her. She makes me happy.
2006-07-06 21:22:00 · update #1
she might be afraid of more dissapointment. comfort her and always be there for her. and she will relize u guys r ment to be. but dont make her feel like she has to. so wat i pretty much saying is let things flow but always catch her wen she falls that way u can both go up together. good luck
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2006-07-06 18:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by so_totally_awesome13 3 · 15⤊ 4⤋
Maybe she is just not ready to head down the dating road again. Since you two already know how you feel about each other have a talk and take it day by day. Start out slowly with both of you understanding that the intention maybe to get closer and date.
2006-07-07 01:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her saying that it would ruin your relationship if you got together is her way of saying that she loves you, but she's not IN LOVE with you. It sucks, but we can't really control who we fall in love with. If she doesn't feel that way about you, you can't make her change. I know it seems impossible (I've been there), but you should try to focus on her as a friend, and look elsewhere for love.
P.S. - This is what I think is going on, but you'll never really know unless you flat out ask her.
2006-07-07 01:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by MLG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal. u say she feels the same about u so most likely she wants everything that u want but she really is scared of commitment. just be patient and if u love her enough to wait this long then u can wait longer. i'm not sure how much longer but it all depends. now if u can't wait then i say move on n she'll realize that she doesn't want u to be with anyone else.
2006-07-07 01:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by Luv Bug! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is normal for girls to do... I have done this. My last boyfriend and I had the same relationship that you two have. Even though our dating didnt last we are still friends. Just give it time and maybe she'll give it a chance
2006-07-07 01:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its normal. girls are wierd. they all have psychotic tendencies and need mental help. but they will tell you it is because they dont want to ruin our friendship, they dont want to be hurt again, or something to that effect. so start flirting with some other girl while she is around, and pay attention to her reactions if she gets jealous she is into you and you need to stop flirting with the other girls. then you can move in on her again and say well i saw how it upset you and im sorry or something like that.
2006-07-07 01:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by deathdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she knows maybe you need to tell her again but yes it is normal especially if she has been in bad relationships. She just wants to take her time and maybe you should reassure her that your not going to hurt her. She needs to know that you care.
2006-07-07 01:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is normal. if you sure she feels the same sounds like she cares for you too much and values your friendship.
either that or maybe you not clear enough on your feelings, go to her and tell her about how you feel for her and see how that goes. i know, my was my friend for about 4 years until we started dating and i didnt wanna confess my feeling until he did cos i was scared.
so go to her again and see, if she still doesnt want to be with you then get over her and be with someone who feels the same about you.
good luck.
2006-07-07 01:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she doesn't want to lose you as a friend if a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship doesn't work out. Does she love you too?
2006-07-07 01:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by melissa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. maybe she is scared of losing u and ur frenship in the long run
2. there is some kinda pressure on her not to date u.
3. maybe she is scared of intimacy issues...etcetc
2006-07-07 01:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmm.... this one is hard. Why don't you just ask her out. She might just playing hard to get. Just take her to a movie or someting and just ask her out. Or you can ask her to a dance. hope i have helped you and good luck.
2006-07-07 03:12:05 · answer #11 · answered by volleyballis4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋