for the single moms did you give ur children your last name or there father's and why or why not?

Answer 1

Give the child dad's surname, unless you have significant reason to believe dad will not be involved.
My son has my last name and I am glad.
A last name represents who the child is, who raised them, and who they represent. If you and your family are the people doing that work, the child will be proud to carry your name forever and give it to their children. Also, it's less confusing.
But, children love their dads and good fathers love their children. That connection is important. Never underestimate the importance of the daddy/child relationship. They should have his name, unless you know otherwise.
If you questioning it, think logically then go with your gut.

Answer 2

I have two kids and they both have my last name. I was married when my son was born and he has dual last names. I wish I had not given him both last names. I wish I would have only given him my maiden last name. Not to disrespect his father, but he is gone and my son only uses my maiden last name. The reason I included my maiden name was because my father's family has several ancestors that were important figures in the history of the USA and we are very proud of that (of course we have our horse thieves too). My ex- was gone by the time I learned I was pregnant with my daughter, so I gave he my maiden name only. We all have the same last name and that makes it easier with school and every thing.

One thing that you might want to keep in mind is Selective Services if you child is a boy. If there are no others with the same last name to carry on the name, he cannot be drafted should that become necessary. Just a thought. It is a type of draft dodging before the fact though. So, it might be frowned upon.

Answer 3

You can give your child any last name you want. It does not have to be yours or his. I gave my son his fathers (I named him after his father) I sometimes regret doing this now that his father has hand nothing to do with him since he was six months old )He is eight now and his father is dead just died a few years ago) I gave my daughter my moms parents name. (I hate my last name and would love to change it.)
When I get married and have more children if I don't like my husbands last name I will just make one up.

Answer 4

I gave my daughter my last name for several reasons. One reason was that I didn't want notes from future teachers assuming that my last name was her daddy's. Another reason was that I knew (too late) that her daddy didn't want to be any part of her life(he hasn't seen or talked to her in ten years). The third reason was that I'm proud of my last name. A forth reason was that as a girl her name would probably change anyway when she got married and I wasn't denying her anything she would want to pass down to her children. Not knowing whether I'd have a boy or girl, I asked her daddy his thoughts. He didn't care. She's currently 12 years old and to his credit he pays child support regularly(He does complain though. I guess paying support for a child you want nothing to do with is like paying taxes and not seeing where the money benefited.) Sorry, I got on a tangent.

Answer 5

when i had my son at age 21 me and his father were not married at the time but we are now. we didn't get married just because i had a baby.

We have been together since we were both 15 now we are 26 and just recently got married this last past valentine's day.

We have been together for 11 years......But when i had my son i did give him my husbands last name because that is what my son is (a smith .For example)

I believe you should give a baby the fathers last name cause how will they know who they are related to later on in life and they should know that side of the family.

Answer 6

I think it depends on the situation. Personally my childs sperm donor was a capital LOSER so I gave my child my last name, which is common. When I did get married later on I kept my last name and added my husbands last name to it, so my son wouldn't feel left out. Good luck!

Answer 7

I don't know about all that stuff, not a mom. But make sure dad signs the affidavit. That assures his financial support of the child(child support $$), even if you give it your last name.

Answer 8

Gave them his last name. After all it was his child to. Even though he stinks as a father figure. Its really up to you.Good Luck.

Answer 9

My name because regulations prevented me from listing his name on the birth certificate (he was not around at the time of the birth).

Answer 10

My sister gave my niece her father's name - they eventually married.