Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months. I like him alot. I even gave my virginity up to him. Well now he wants to stop using condoms and have me get on the pill. He recently got a check up at the clinic and he doesnt have any std's. I just dont understand why he wants me to get on the pill. Guys does it feel better without a condom or what? If i do get on the pill i may accidently forget to take it one day and the next thing you know I might get pregant. I also heard that the pill have a lot of side effects. What should i do in this situation? Have you ever went threw this?
2006-07-06 18:28:20 · 26 answers · asked by lady 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
tell him NOOOOOOOOOOOOo!
2006-07-06 18:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by internet browser 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop Using Condoms
2017-01-18 08:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months isn't very long. Are you SURE he's being faithful? Just because he doesn't have any stds now doesn't mean a d@mn thing. Maybe he was being unfaithful and it's just his luck that he hasn't caught anything...yet. My husband hates condoms. He says sex is much better without them. I got a non-hormonal (copper) IUD. It was my decision too. Actually, it was my idea...I wouldn't have to remember to take any pills, he wouldn't have to stop just as things were heating up to go get a condom, etc. I think in your situation, you should talk with him and tell him you're incredibly uncomfortable with him not wanting to use condoms. 8 months isn't a very long time...at this point, you guys are still learning about each other, and there's no way tto tell if he's been faithful or if he'll continue to be faithful.
As for the pill, yes...you're introducing man-made hormones to your body, and they can seriously f*ck with your system. It can also be difficult for you to conceive (when you're ready) after coming off the pill. This isn't ALWAYS true, but it does happen a lot. The pill supresses your body from ovulating...and the periods you have a fake periods. If you were meant not to ovulate, then God wouldn't have created us to have a menstrual cycle.
Stick with condoms...it's your best bet.
2006-07-07 03:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does feel different- and I am not a guy, but it even feels different for the woman.
i think you have less of a chance getting pg on the pill than by using condoms, but I don't like the pill myself.
yes, the pill can have lots of side effects. Some people react more than others. I know several women who have gotten so sick they could not continue on the pill- but this doesn't happen to everyone.
I stopped taking the pill last December and won't take it ever again.
I think it's too bad that men always want to push birth control off onto the woman as if it is just her responsibility and her concern.
If you don't want to go on the pill, don't let anyone push you into it. If your b/f cannot respect that, maybe he isn't the nice guy you thought he was anyway.
-Meg
2006-07-07 01:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there much of a pregnancy risk with the pill, as long as you take it every day and make sure to contact your doctor if for example you throw up within a short while after having taken the pill (because it may not be effective in this case). The real problem with the pill is the enormous violation of your organism & its natural way of functioning, which may result in serious side effects - that's the real risk, and I think that no young girl should undergo it. (also, if you are a smoker, then you have to choose between smoking and the pill, you can't do both)
But, no matter what you decide to do, PLEASE, never settle for a middle-of the road situation such as him pulling himslf before ejaculation. That can go seriously wrong. I know people who have got pregnant this way
Oh, and by the way, maybe your boyfriend does not know these things, so make sure he understands, otherwise you can't judge him for not knowing
2006-07-06 21:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Chrisa A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sex does feel better without the condom, so basically he is being very selfish. He is choosing HIS pleasure over YOUR health. The reason I say this is because the pill has very serious side effects. It has been linked to endometriosis and cancers of the uterus, ovaries, and breasts to name a few.
You need to be firm with him. Tell him you have no interest in going on the pill, and that your sex-life with him using the condoms is working well for you and you are not going to change it. If the day comes when he flat out refuses to put a condom on, despite knowing how you feel, then I guess you have your answer as to how much or how little he respects you.
2006-07-06 18:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i Can Say Using Condoms Takes Away The Sensitivty But You my Dear Should not be Subject to Causing medical problems For yourself Sounds Like your Prolly A Youngin (Meaning Under 20)
My GF Hates Me using Condoms I Personally Dont Like Them either Buy Im 32 & My GF Is 31 & We both Agree On it(Its Not one Sided!!!)
Dont Do Anythign You Are Uncomfortable Doing Young Lady!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 18:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl having sex w/out a condom is alot better,but take the pill or any other type of birth control(the depo is this best you go in and get the shot ever 90 days,it also helps with you monthly cycle, but be careful of what u eat u might gain some pounds.)Have fun you onlu live once.
2006-07-06 18:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you not want to get on the pill? condoms can break and also you don't have to interrupt the moment to put on a condom and yes it feels a 100 times better without that damn thing on. I just can't believe you wouldn't want to especially after 8 months together.
2006-07-06 18:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 05:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been on the pill for more than five years now and the going has been absolutely fine. Besides the condoms entry is banned to my bedroom. I hate it more than my husband. Contraception is a individual and relative issue. The only way is to sit down with your guy and work something out mutually
2006-07-06 21:32:25 · answer #11 · answered by pakir poyum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋