New mom am I going crazy?

Question

I just had a baby a couple of months ago. She is my whole world and I absolutely love being a mom. The only problem is that I am having a hard time being at home all of the time. My husband works at a bar so he is gone all night and sleeps all day. I just feel like I need to get out of the house before I go crazy. Do any other moms out there have some advice on what to do? Thanks

Answer 1

Oh yeah I have been having the same thing going on...exept mu husband is gon ALL day 9 AM to 10pm or 11 pm I have no car so I take walks...lots and lots of walks (it also helps with the baby weight) I have also found some radio shows that I enjoy listening to and have a small AM radio that I take with me while I walk. On days that I do have the car and am really bored I go to the store and walk around and imagine how great all this stuff would look in my house (I don't usually buy anything) I also call family and talk with them.
You might try finding a Mommy and Me group in your neighborhood. they are everywhere and if you can't find one start one. All you need are Moms and their babies...let the babies play and the Mommy's talk. I also planted a garden in some pots and have been taking care of that. Learn how to cook if you don't know how and if you do, experiment with different recipes. Do art projects with your baby (trace the foot or hands) or dip them in some paint and stick their feet or hands all over some paper. If you have access to a pool get the floaty for the baby and go swimming! Hope some of this helps!

Answer 2

welcome to the club I been home for 5 years now. I have a 5, 4 year old and a 7 month baby. My husband work driving a truck over the road and i live on a country house where there is only cows around. Go to see your family and your friends, take her for a walk to the park the mall or even in your own neighborhood.

Answer 3

Make your man stay at home witht he baby for a few hours to get you out of the house!!! That helps alot but do it now cause unlike myslef I got a 9 month old and he only wants me cause I am always with him, Tried the kids quest thing didn't work will keep trying. bUT i AM HAPPY TO GET OUT THE HOUSE WITH JUST THE BABY and feel like I am by myself. We got 4 other's here. I go crazy staying at home to miss working and staying out all night but feel better knowing the baby is not in a day care. He will grow up someday and not need me as much. I have been trying to go out for about 30 -40 in a day and leave the baby with my man and rest of the kids in hopes of actually getting to have alife again with out him sometimes.

Answer 4

maybe your husband should have some time off work to help u a bit. i am 5 months pregnant and have a 7month old son, y fiance works all day, comes home eats dinner, goes to bed, wakes up and does the same thing all week round, so i know how u feel.
i took my son for a walk to the park yesterday and although he slept the whole time we were there, i found it relaxing just sitting outside instead of being at home.

Answer 5

Find a parents group in your area (kids get together and play). Obviously your daughter can't play, but there would be other adults for you to talk to. I took my daughter everywhere when she was little (it was actually easier because she slept so much). Another thing you can do if you're breastfeeding is go places that have nursing areas that are quiet. You could also meet some friends at a local park for a walk.

Answer 6

I have a 13 month old and a 2 month old. Now talk about crazy!! Get out of the house as much as possible. Get a stroller, babies love to explore the outside world and they get attention from others which helps wear them out. And talk talk talk as much as possible to your friends and family, believe me you need all the support you can get! Babytalk gets to your head sometimes! And getting your baby in daycare once in awhile helps her advance by watching the older children. Plus it gives you a break to do something you want.

Answer 7

Go for walks, go to the mall, the zoo, the library. There are lots of things to do. Find a friend to tag along with you, it's even better if they have a kid too. And do not let your husband sleep all day. He's a part of the family too, he should act like one.

Answer 8

Hire a babysitter or get a friend or relative to watch the baby for awhile. It is not healthy for you to be in the house all of the time. You will begin to resent it. Your husband needs to help out.

Answer 9

no offence but didnt you think of this before you had the kid???
put the baby in a stoller and go for a walk go to the park.. who said you had to be stuck in the house?? nature is the most important thing for babies to have contact with (fewer ADD cases in kids who have had a lot of contact with nature)

seriously I had a kid - and NO CAR.. I fewquently went for walks, and eventually we bought our own home so I had a great yard to play in and make a garden in too...if that isnt for you .. dont go having any more kids..

Answer 10

as soon your man gets up go!!!! go to the grocery store but eggs whatever. get out, have your hubby take afew days off and go to your moms or to your mom in laws whatever , get out or you will go crazy,just because you leave doesmt mean you love your child less or your hubby, you need time too, he goes to work and gets his time now you get yours,heres another idea, try getting a babysitter and go join him at this club, surprize him!!! do something different go to the library, take a class or something, you have to keep yourself sain by doing something fo ryou. he hasto help you too. what about his days off? or is he making mad overtime? have him watch the baby too, he doesnt need to sleep the whole time. he only need 9 hours. get helpnow or you will be in big trouble. good luck.