2006-07-06 17:46:34 · 22 answers · asked by eloisa m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be nice, caring and listen to her. she may talk or has talked to you about it - just listen, don't advise unless it is asked for. It helps.
2006-07-06 17:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by ami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not treat her any differently than anyone else. She has been made into a victim and now needs to know that people care, but overdoing it will not help. Try to help her understand she is the victim and it wasn't her fault.
For what it's worth, some people, including me, feel that she didn't truly lose her virginity. In this belief, "Knowing the pleasure of a man" is the only way a female can lose her virginity. That implies a loving relationship with sexual pleasure, not a rape.
2006-07-07 00:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by OriginalSim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would treat her "Like a Lady"!
There are of course additional considerations due to her trauma, but if you treat anyone "right" -- it' is hard to go wrong.
If you are "fishing" for answers from the standpoint of sex, her needs will be different then those not abused --- and at that point it's best to involve some type of "professionals" (my "choice" is "Support Group" over counseling -- but that's just preference).
2006-07-07 00:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by WordMan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three key words there. 1) lost meaning not given nor thrown away. 2) ABUSE -traumatic mistreatment 3) lady-- be natural with her. Don't necessarily treat her any differently than you would any other woman. by doing so you could underline the idea that she's tarnished. She didn't do it- she's fine. Suggest you find abuser, maybe have chat?
2006-07-07 00:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like a lady. Lots of respect and understanding. Abuse of any kind is very ugly and if she is made to feel good about herself will help you make her feel better and forget the past. It takes a special kind of man that can do that but it can be done.
2006-07-07 00:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`ll treat Her the way I treat other woman, but just more gently. Usually this Lady so sensitive, if we treat her quite different to others sharply, she could be offended too. Still give a respect, thet`s could make Her healed soon
2006-07-07 06:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by didi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her with respect and dignity. Nobody wants to be abused. I'm sure she didn't want those things to happen to her. She needs to regain her dignity and we might be one the many people who can help her forget the traumatic experiences brought about by those abuses. Everyday, we are called by God to do His good works to others, specially to the needy and the abused. Will you let this chance to help others, just pass by in your life?
2006-07-07 01:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Seeker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With patience and understanding. That is not an easy thing to deal with and she will need your support and your friendship to see her through. I sure wish I had a friend when it happen to me. I'm glad to see that you are willing to be a friend to her. Stand by her and make her feel as beautiful as you can. Also, read up on women and sexual abuse. You will find some great info there. All my best to you and her. Peace be with you.
2006-07-07 00:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by mamalovevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tenderly and with respect! I do that anyway but a lady who has been abused needs lots of TLC!
2006-07-07 00:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like shes a lady, treat her as though shes a virgin and dont press her for sex. she is very fragile
2006-07-07 00:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you have a rough road ahead of you. Depends on her personality but you may be in for a ride. Usually from my experience those poor girls are not quite right emotionally until they have dealt with what happened.
2006-07-07 00:51:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋