Domestic Violence Question?

Question

Me and my boyfriend were arguing I talked a whole bunch of trash as he was trying to walk away. He stopped came back and began to walk away again and I had to say the last word again. This time he came back and sat on me. Then I asked him to get off and he did, I then hit him in the mouth and shoved him into the wall. He was shocked and had never laid hands on me before, he was even more suprised he was bleeding. He then left, he is a 6 foot 190 pound muscle bound boxer, I was scared he would come back and hurt me so I called the cops, they arrested him and did not buy his story at all about the bloody lip. Is this wrong or should he have not restrainded me.

Answer 1

Sounds like you are the one with violence issues...How could you get him arrested when he was only trying to protect himself? I hope he never talks to you again....sounds like he is a good guy and you are the one who needs therapy for your rage...seriously...think before you act...sometimes you can't take back things you have done!

Answer 2

It was wrong of him to sit on you, but you were way out of line
to punch him in the mouth, throw him against the wall and then
have the nerve to call the cops on him....these actions make it
hard on women who are truly abused.....you were afraid of his
retaliation, and I can understand that....but to allow him to be
arrested ..that's f***d up. You're the one
who needs a night in jail and some anger management.
I know what he did in the first place was wrong....but violence
is never the answer unless you are defending yourself against
someone who is attacking you...then I say go for it and protect
yourself...with all you got girl...but you said he got off of you....
you should have kicked his *** out the door....but not literally.
Oh and by the way...I am being politically correct..and I do believe
in my answer...but on the other hand having been beaten by a
man twice my size and afraid to death he was going to kill me...
I'm almost glad to hear you didn't tolerate any **** from him...
same time...you were wrong girl. It was good you didn't take his
abuse...when he frickin sat on you...what an idiot...but the situation really could have gotten way worse ....he really could
have f***d you up, mind you I'm proud you would have fought
back....but don't ever make a situation worse by escalating the
violence....and it's not worth it to have the last word either...
life's too short for these types of bullsh*t relationships...no wonder the cops get tired of helping abused women...with all
this crazy bullshit that goes on....

Answer 3

I think that you defended yourself, but..to HIS credit...did you admit that YOU hit him as well after having been sat on and that you made him bleed? Yes, he should not have SAT on you...and so probably the self defense will stand ...but your need to have the last word..TWICE...you are not cutting yourself any breaks here...
also when you asked for him to get off and he DID...means that somewhere in that twisted head...he respected you enough TO GET OFF once asked...and THEN YOU POPPED HIM...so I can see how he was shocked..he may have thought that the fight was over...well ya showed him...who the queen is..but be careul...
as the impartial judge...I'd want more detail from your side of the story..but...all in all..I wouldn't get back with him,, because this is the catalyst of what could occur...as you can see...I am being nicer than the others who would have tossed you in jail quicker..I'd still investigate this..

Answer 4

You are one lucky girl, not to have gone to jail with him. When
you decided to start slugging away on him, that was battery. He
did NOT have any right to even TOUCH YOU much less sit on
you. He had no right to restrain you, AFTER he already walked
away. He should have kept on walking. Arguing can often lead
to violence. Calling names, yelling, kicking, spitting, shoving,
pulling hair, etc, is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. It is the leading
cause of death amoung women. Women put up with far to much
and we don't have to. It is a CYCLE. This is how the pattern is
born, First everything is calm, you both are getting along good.
Then there is a TENSION build-up. When the tension gets to
high, it is usually the male who will explode. And they get mentally and perhaps physically abusive. THEN, after they beat
you down, the HONEYMOON effect happens. He brings flowers
or apologizes, saying it will never happen again. But I assure you
it will. Abusive relationships never get better. They only get worse.
It will only STOP when you leave that destructive relationship.
I've been there, I know. For 9 years. I made it out alive barely.
It's not worth it. NO PERSON is worth ruining your life over. Just
remember, when you make good choices, good things will
happen. When you make bad choices, bad things will happen.
Best of luck to you, find someone where you BOTH get along.

Answer 5

Wow, sucks to be him! That's pretty messed up. Yah, he sat on ur *** but u hit him back and top of that shoved him, if he walked away and not beat the living crap out of u then y would u go as far as calling the cops on him? No, it wasn't right for him to sit on u, instead he should of have left and it was good that u defended urself but callin the cops, I think it's going a lil too far for ur situation.

Answer 6

Violence is never the answer. His sitting on you was absolutely not okay. Your verbal and physical abuse surely weren't either. I suppose in a perfect world with justice you would have gone to jail. After all you did want the last word and kept egging on the situation. You sound very conniving and he should have kept walking. To direclty answer your question; are you for real? Please don't ever consider having children with this person and if you (i'm assuming your female) ever have children please consider some sort of counseling. I mean this will all sincerity and would tell my own loved ones the same.

Answer 7

Men should never hit a woman, but he didn't hit you. But it goes the same for women too. There is no reason for you to push or hit anyone. Violence is stupid. You shouldn't have kept at him like that, nothing is ever solved by talking "trash." Now when you go to bail him out it will just be wasted money that you have to spend because you couldn't control your mouth.
When you grow up you will to talk problems out not fight them out.

Answer 8

you should never ever hit or hurt your b/f, this is appalling behaviour, it does not matter what his height, weight, strength is it is absolutely wrong of you. If the roles were reversed and he had done that to you, everyone on here would say to you to leave him, well, I would say to him to leave you unless you can control yourself and not lash out at him. And to then call the police on him and he had not done anything? Well, I would say you should try anger management before attempting to have a relationship with anyone, and I would suggest to your b/f to stay away from you until you can prove to him that you have your temper under control.

Answer 9

it is YOU that should have been arrested! people like you are why many times women aren't believed when they have a real reason for calling the police for domestic violence. as a survivor of domestic violence i will say that this situation is offensive and i hope the boyfriend convinces the authorities that he is telling the truth and you get your a** thrown in jail and then dumped.

after reading your other questions it seems to me you just made this up.

Answer 10

YOU are at fault and YOU should've just let them walk away. Typically if they're trying to walk away it's to AVOID something like this. You should tell the cops what you said here because he got arrested cuz you had to have the last word.