If your child pushs another child and you are there, is it ok for the other mom to yell at your child?

Question

My friend reacted so quickly, that I didn't have time to do anything. She pointed in my child's face and yelled at her, making her run and hide and cry. My fiance and I are not happy with her.

IF YOU READ THE DETAILS, YOU WILL SEE THAT I HAD TO TIME TO REACT. ALSO PLEASE NOTE THIS CHILD IS HERE OFTEN AND IS A BRAT TO MY CHILD. HE HIT HER IN THE MOUTH WHICH CAUSED BLEEDING AND ALSO PUSHED MY DAUGHTER INTO THE WINDOW.

Answer 1

I think that by her screaming and yelling at your child in front of you, it kind of sends the message to the child that you are ok with someone doing that....even though I can tell that you aren't.
Even though I am not a parent, quite yet, I would be MAJORLY mad at someone yelling at my child in front of me. You were standing right there and I don't understand why she felt the need to "discipline" your child. She could have been nicer about it. She could have nicely explained that "Pushing is NOT ok". Children are more likely to respond to someone talking nicely than yelling. Heck...I'm a daycare teacher, and it makes me mad when other teachers try and discipline my students.

Answer 2

Well if that was my child and there parents are so quick to react upon your child you might want to reevaluate who your freinds really are unless you ask for help from someone else, then you should be the only one to correct your child. NOTE Please never put anything into a childs face finger, fist, object, ect. will make your child very scidish when things come near her face and will have a impair on her life later on down the road. Hope all works well

Answer 3

To yell at your child, no it is not ok. If you are present, it is not ok for her to do anything. That is your responsibility. However, if you just stood there and did nothing then I could understand if she told your child pushing was not nice but again if she did this while yelling she is in the wrong.

Answer 4

Calmly asking your child not to push and pointing out the reasons why it is not ok to push is fine, getting in the face of your child and yelling or trying to punish your child is definitely not ok.
Let your friend know that you do not feel comfortable with her trying to discipline your child and you feel that it is your job and you will handle it in the way that you see fit. You may want to point out past infractions of her child and suggest that she worry about her own kin rather than yours. You may also want to reconsider your friendship with this person altogether. It sounds as if she may have some anger issues based upon her reactions to your child pushing. Ask yourself if it is in your families well being to keep associating with her and her family. Best of luck to you, I hope that you and your friend can resolve your issues.

Answer 5

As a parent myself, I think if my child pushed someone else's child and I didn't punish my own kid, the other mother has every right to yell at my kid. The problems these day's, is parents aren't disciplining thier children. That's why we have so many children acting out.

Answer 6

No way! I would be furious if someone else tried to discipline my child while I was present. Even if I wasn't present I would be mad that someone yelled at my child.
Talk to your friend and tell her that you will handle the discipline when it involves your kid and for her to keep quiet. How would she feel if the situation had been reversed? Would she want you yelling at her child? I bet not.

Answer 7

The other mom should had waited to see if you did anything about it. I f it happened again and you just sat there , I fill the otrher mother should had walked up to the child and told her son or daughter they cannot play with so and so if they are being bad and take them away to another area. They do not have a right to even touch your child no mattert how bad they are. PEM

Answer 8

As a parent we sometimes react without thinking when harm is being done to our child. But if you as the parent was there trying to rectify the situation, then no it wouldn't sit well with me letting someone yell at my child.

Answer 9

NO it is not OK for her to yell at your child!!!!! You should beat her to reacting to the situation by. going over to your child get down on his/her level and explain that pushing another child is unacceptable and if the pushing happens again you will take them home.

Answer 10

It depends on if you yelled at your child or did something about it. Tell Joan to chill out she will get over it, look how she disciplines her kid, there is your answer. Maybe you believe its not right for her to yell at your kid but maybe she doesn't think the way you discipline is right either. You both have different parenting strategies, I wouldn't have yelled at your kid but I would expect you to handle it, whether he deserved it or not its still not right to hit.