What should I do/say if I have a co-worker who's acting very bossy (she's not even our manager!)?

Answer 1

I also have a co-worker like that. What you can do is, write down all the things that she has done to you as an evidence. File a grievance against her and submit it to your supervisor. Your supervisor will know what to do about her.

Answer 2

Let's see....why not ask Yahoo! Answers about this? Yes, that should tell you how to deal with your problem without having to take any REAL action to solve it. Get Real!

First use the direct approach. Tell the truth, be honest, and screw up your courage to confront her so you can stop getting trampled on at work. This will work 99% of the time.

Forget seeing the boss about it unless the direct approach fails. Then you have to get management involved. (The boss may talk a good game, but they really don't want to know.)

Keeping a diary of every instance of possible bossiness...that is immature. Plus, it is not your job to do what a manager gets paid the big bucks to do...investigate complaints.

If neither of these 2 options works, find somewhere else to work.

Answer 3

I have that problem at work too. It may be she's been given responsibility by managment and she's convinced now she's all that an'a bag of chips. Or she might just be attitude with an "A". Document everything she says and does. If she's been that way towards others, maybe someone else has reported her as well. Talk to your supervisor, or to your human resources department and file a formal complaint.

Answer 4

If possible, record her actions and keep them well documented to submit to an actual manager when you have enough evidence.

Also - as many others have said - be sure to keep your cool (sometimes the hardest part of it all) even when you want to grab them by the throat and say "LISTEN YOU WASTE OF YOUR FATHER'S ORGASM YOU'RE NOT IN CHARGE HERE!"

Present your finding to an actual manager and then if nothing is done, go over that person's head, and keep going if necessary until something is done.

If you don't take a stand for yourself, no one else is going to.

Answer 5

Do you mean she's telling you to do things around the office? This could be a problem because if your manager sees you doing something else other than what he/she told you to do, you could get in trouble for not following your boss' directions. Maybe you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm working on the project that told me to do right now."

Answer 6

has she been asked by the manager is her absence to be in charge and has the manager let everyone know ? or is she down and out bossy ? let her know have the manager as a witness so she cant use it against you later

Answer 7

People have already gave you some good advice and I agree with a couple of them. I would probobly just domy job the best I could, and if someone other than my supervisor tried to tell me what to do, I would just simply looke at the them and smile and say (whatever Supervisor name is) has told me to work on this particular project.

Answer 8

Tell her to be careful as to whose toes she is stepping on because they may be connected to the a s s of someone she needs to kiss in the future. Honestly-you will never find a job where these folks do not exist. IF is it really offensive ask her to sit down in a non-confrontational way and explain to her how you feel. She may not even realize she is doing it. She may thank you for pointing it out.

Answer 9

I am a manager and my advise is to get her alone, no witnesses and tell her to shut the hell up and mind her own damn business.
Your word against hers.
And if that doesn't work, catch her outside after hours and tell her you will kick her a$$.

Answer 10

Say "I'm sorry, but I cannot take direction from you. I am afraid that if I do what you tell me, and it's wrong, you will not be there to get me out of trouble"

Or better yet... "Back the f&%K off beyotch and stop movin' my cheese."