I don't know what to do, I keep thinking bad thoughts and I just don't know what I can possibly do or how to act....
2006-07-06 17:37:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anna G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Allow yourself to feel bad. Nothing wrong with those feelings. Dont fight it. Stay close to mom. Love her. You'll feel better for at least doing things you have control of. And dont forget to tell her how much she means to you. Love is all we have, honey. Take care.
2006-07-06 17:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you being frightened or angry at a time like this. The key is in how you vent it and work through it. Of course, you can't vent at your mom, she needs positive support and encouragement right now. But supressing and denying all that honest emotion is not the right path either. Ask your mom's doctor about family support groups for cancer patients, so that you can talk about your own anxieties in an appropriate setting with understanding people. Many health centers have them. Education is also an effective weapon against the emotional trauma for both patient and family... the more you understand the easier it is to be calm and positive. And finally, discipline yourself to consistently use a stress management tool like yoga and/or meditation to help you stay grounded through it all.
And do try hard to think positive, despite the fear. Times really have changed, and the long term survival rates for cancer patients of all kinds have improved dramatically. For many of us now, cancer is something we live with or make a part of our past history, not something we automatically die from.
2006-07-07 00:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not to panic.
wait till you get more info from the Doctors. Take it one day at a time. The best thing to do for your Mom is to stay strong and keep the Faith. Always think positive and keep in mind you guys are going to get through this. Science has evolved and there is treatment for Cancer. Embrace the good, reject the Bad..
2006-07-07 00:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but if she confides in you - listen, not just with your ears, but with you heart. Be honest with her about your feelings. Cry with her, if you feel it - hold her close, listen to her fears.
Offer to go with her to her doctors' appointment. Ask questions. If you can't go with her, maybe call her doctors' office and ask for some literature on breast cancer to read.
Ask about support groups for your mom - offer to go with her. Going to a support group can be VERY helpful, but very scary and intimidating the first time. Having you there with her may make the difference in whether or not she goes. Or if she wants to go alone, let her do that.
There is no special way to act - there are no magic words to say. Right now, nothing is going to change the fact that she has cancer, and the fears she has, for herself and her family.
Just be there for her, and love her. Be glad that it's OK to talk about cancer now. In the past, sometimes the person with cancer was not told the truth about what is wrong with them. Family wasn't allowed to discuss it with them. They were left in the dark about what was happening to them - and sometimes died without being told they had cancer. Thank goodness things have changed, and patients and families have the ability to support and be supportive of each other.
And my heart and prayers go out to the both of you.
2006-07-07 00:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's a sad news. Which stage is her cancer in now? The doctors must have advise you and your family to clear all the toxic from your home. If no, you should better do it now for your mum to stand a good chance to improve her condition and improve.
I'm not expert, but i can provide you with some tips.
Good luck.
2006-07-07 00:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable with it, you could go with her to her doctor visits and make sure you're there for moral support. The best thing you can do is stay positive, honestly. Your mother is here now and is living now- focus on that.If you don't take the chance to live in the moment now, you'll regret it if something happens to her. Stay positive and let her know how you're feeling...even your fears and worries
2006-07-07 00:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Someone help me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in shock, of course, at this terrible news. But try to remember there are lots of people who recover. There is lots of hope, so although it is normal to think about the worst case scenario, don't let it overwhelm you. Just take the opportunity to show your mom you love her and are there for her no matter what. She will be struggling too, so let her know you are in it together.
2006-07-07 00:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's very tough, i'm sorry for your mom and you. the best thing you can do is stop worrying and treat her like you always have, if you start babying or doing everything for her she will get angry. be there when she needs to talk, cry or whatever. find a support group or talk to other women who have been through the same thing and most important stay positive.
2006-07-07 00:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by evilprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I AM SORRY ,DONT PANNAK
2006-07-07 00:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋