Okay so this guy from school and I have been chatting with each other for a while. And we were both in love with each other until he sent me his recent pictures. I feel like such a bad person for not liking him anymore because of it. I wanna do this without hurting his feelings as we were good friends already. Help?
2006-07-06 17:36:51 · 18 answers · asked by thomas. 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just be honest if your not ready to a relationship just tell him. It will hurt him a little but isn't it better to tell him now rather then wait for him to find out later.
There is NO shame in not being ready for a relationship, if he likes you then he will wait, until then he will be happy to be your friend. I was in the same situation just last week I feel completly in love with this guy, and then he told me he was the same age as my brother. I feel bad about hurting his feelings but he understands that I'm not ready and to be honest he wasn't either.
Don't beat yourselve up about it. Remember your only a kid once enjoy the time you have while you have it. There is NO shame in being ready for stuff like this. He will understand but you do have to tell him other wise he will find out from someone else.
Hope this is helpful
2006-07-06 18:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lion at heart 2 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Don't tell him off at all. Just say you didn't appreciate receiving the photos, for whatever reason you have. For example, "I really didn't appreciate receiving those photos you sent they were just way inappropriate for where we are in our friendship. I like you and all as a friend, but if you ever thought we might develop something more, well, I'm afraid It's not going to happen now."
This will let him know how he blew it, which is always helpful. It also lets you get your point across w/o being total obnoxious.
2006-07-06 17:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by noitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bad. Many people find physical attraction wears off very, very, quickly. But a growing friendship can turn to love even if you don't feel love at first "sight". Take it from someone who lived and learned this, my current love is going on 11 years, and the "physical" attraction came AFTER I got to know the real him!!! Take a chance, you never know if you like it until you try!
2006-07-06 17:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by kateyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are pretty shallow. It's true everyone must be physically attracted to someone before they start liking the person, but YOU already liked this person for who he is in the inside. You should have asked for a pic first and then learned more about him because you were interested...not the other way around.
I hope he dumps you.
2006-07-06 18:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you've never seen him? I don't get your senario...
Whatever the senario, I guess you have proven to yourself that you care more for what is on the outside than inside and that will cost you someday.
I suggest you carefully think of a way to let him know you love him as a friend. But, if you both have professed "love" of another kind, feelings will be hurt.
2006-07-06 17:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thomas, sounds like you're in a bind here...you're in love with a guy from school that you haven't seen and don't know and now don't like because of the pictures.....I'd say you should just be honest, say I saw the pictures and I realized that I was not as attractive as you are and that I am shallow and mean spirited and I think we should move on because you deserve a person who is kind and attractive and I am not..solves it!
2006-07-06 17:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in love with this person then you wouldnt care what he looked like.. Obviously someone who makes you extremely happy and cares for you needs to also posess great looks. What are you scared of? Introducing a not so attractive person to your friends/family? if your friends hack out on you because he isnt your normal good looking guy.. They are not true friends are they?
2006-07-06 17:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to see him in person? Then just make something up. It's not you it's me, I met someone else, I'm going through some things right now, I need to concentrate on school more, etc.
Otherwise, I'd just send him a quick email saying you're moving on for personal reasons and block his email.
2006-07-06 17:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats not nice of u lol. but it actually happened to me too. sometimes you're just not physically attracted to them! but if u were really in love with him then you wouldnt have cared. so i dont think you were in love. anyway thats not the point... just slowly try to grow apart from him, talk about other guys, tell him that you like them and stuff that will make him stop liking you. but never tell him you're not attracted to him physically cuz thats not cool :). and keep talkin to him and being friends with him. be like oh i just wanna be friends cuz of school... no time for a bf... it really depends on what your relationship with him is like. but yeah just do things to stop liking you
2006-07-06 17:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by icsalazarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you no longer like him, it shouldnt matter howq you tell him to buzz off. being honest is the best way. he will get over it, but either way he is going to be hurt because you have already lost interest in him w/o giving him much of a chance.... just tell him that you are really not interested anymore or something, but hhe is going to be hurt reguardless.
2006-07-06 17:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋