my grandma has been dead for almost 2 months and she died the day after school ended and i never got to tell her what grade i was going into and i miss her a lot and every nite i pray for her to be happy...but then i get to thinking that she wants meh to think of the past not the future...and i dont know everytime I think how can I be having a good time when i know she is dead and it makes meh cry...and then that thursday on my brothers b-day my best friend got in a car accident but he lived he was in the hospital for a month but he lived....and i dont know can u guys help meh????
2006-07-06 16:42:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry sweetie truth is it takes time my dad passed away on 6-6-06 a month ago today It is hard not to think about the past try to think of it that you have a guardian angel if you need to talk feel free to contact me I will be more than happy to help you in anyway I can
2006-07-06 16:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you keep thinking that your grandmother wants you to think about the past and not the future - YOUR future - that would seem like a pretty selfish grandma, wouldn't it? I doubt she was. I think that she would want for you to move on, knowing that all must die in the course of time. It is inevitible, and just because you are trying to do other things with your life does not make you selfish. You can better honor her life and death by living an honorable and happy life, and by doing good, and helping others as the opportunities arrive. Talk to someone about your upset feelings: TALK - don't use the internet. There is something more soothing about an actual human voice that has compassion and love in it that a simple font can't duplicate in the slightest. Even a letter has more feeling in it, when handwritten. Good luck.
"Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou [Lord] art with me." Psalm 23
2006-07-06 17:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by musikgeek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would want to know where you are spiritually... Do you believe in God? What kind of qualities do you think God has?
In my own life, I believe that God is a loving father. He wants us all to be happy, here and in the next life. Your grandma is happy, strong and oh-so-busy. She still exists, and still loves you. I'm sure she knows how you did in school. I'm willing to bet that the only thing that makes her sad is that you are so sad.
If she was anything like my grandma (who's been dead a little over a year), she loves you tons, and wants you to have a wonderful life, filled with every adventure possible. She wants you to go ahead with your life- learning, loving, hurting, crying and laughing and growing into a wonderful, smart, kind, strong person.
When the time comes (hopefully, many years down the road) for you to die, she will be waiting there to greet you on the other side with a hug and a "Welcome Home!"
Pray to God for the comfort you need- He will give it to you. Remember- He loves you, too!
2006-07-06 16:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandfather died recently and I was faced with a similar problem. Even though I didn't see him very often, it was always nice to know that he was around and that he wanted me to be happy.
I got over the sadness of his death by remembering the happy times that he had and realising what a full life he'd lived. He'd served in the navy, married, raised 3 children, sent them to college, retired, been very involved with community etc. I realised that it would have been selfish of me to want him to stay forever. His body was getting old but his mind was still as active as ever.
One day his heart finally gave out and that was it. I know that the pain and suffering he felt toward the end are over and can't touch him now.
If it helps, think about her watching you now and how she would feel about you feeling sad all the time. She would want you to be happy and living your life. Celebrate her, don't mourn her.
2006-07-06 16:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will help. Try to do something to keep busy. Pray for yourself. She is evidently doing great in heaven so she doesn't need your prayers now. Ask God to help you through this. Try to pray in the morning about this and you will not be as likely to start thinking about it so much that it interfers with your day. Don't feel guilty about having a good time, grandma wants you to be happy and at peace. Be thankful that you got to spend time with her. Pray for others, that you know or if they are strangers, to find peace about the troubles in their life
2006-07-06 16:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. It is good to think about your Gran. Remembering the good times you had and the things you learned from her will help you keep her in your heart always. It is ok and even good to cry that helps you get your emotions under control.
Sometimes when people lose a loved one they have a dream about that person, it is actually called a visitation. When my husband died I dreamed that he met me at a place very special to us, we went for a carriage ride and he told me he was happy and that I should go on with my life. He sent me away and we were both feeling peaceful. Gaining peace is the key.
2006-07-06 16:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be in a rush to put her out of your head. that is natural you have known her all your life and your not going to forget her in just two months. at the same time don't dwell in the past either. remember grandparents only want the best for their grandbabies and i am willing to bet she would want u to remember the good times u shared with her and know that she is at peace.
what i do is whenever i think of someone who has passed on. i remember something good about them and say "i know ur in good hands now and i know ur still watching over me" i was over seas when my grandmother passed. i didn't make it to the funeral but i know she would have wanted me to continue doing what i was doing. i know your grandma would want u to do the same. God bless u and take care
2006-07-06 17:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by naztman2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try frogetting the past n pray for your grandma's departed soul so dat she may rest in peace.
also pray for your friend coz good wishes do help!
n this whole thing is just in your head ...so stop brooding over the past....u cant bring back time n people....so live for the present n think about the future.
ALL THE BEST!
2006-07-06 16:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something that you'll never be able to get over. My grandpa died almost 8 years ago, and sometimes I still cry. After a while though, you just learn how to deal with them being gone.
2006-07-07 01:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by lexicam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time and go to the library and ask for books on Grief Counseling. Good luck.
2006-07-06 16:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Derek W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋