My friend has offered her place for my graduation party, I'm supplying food. She's been buying things and acquiring lawn furniture that she will keep afterwards. Now she wants to invite some of her friends (who I don't know) because she doesn't know anyone on the invite list. Why would I want strangers at my graduation party? To everyone invited it looks as though she's totally hosting the deal. Should I just suck it up and enjoy meeting new friends or should I say "No?" Or should I ask her to pitch in for the food? (Neither of us are overburdened with money right now.)
2006-07-06 16:30:05 · 19 answers · asked by Polly 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell her a few friends are fine, but nothing over 5 because you're paying for the food. If they want to bring their own food that's fine but mention that her friends will reflect on you while your family is there. If they become too much of a bother you will have to ask them to leave. Asking her to help with the food isn't a bad idea. Tell her because you're on a budget that you only budgeted enough food for so many people.
2006-07-06 17:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jacci 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok...you don't want strangers at your party but she's going to be surrounded by strangers. Maybe she wants to invite her friends so she wouldn't feel lonely or uncomfortable at the party. Its just like bringing a date to a party. If you are worried about her friends, maybe you can meet them before the graduation party.
Why would you ask her to pitch in for food if she is already buying other items and furniture? That doesn't seem right.
2006-07-06 16:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by superflygurl123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being kind enough to let ou use her place and to spend some of her money on lawn furniture that she probably wouldn't have bought if it were not for you party, it should be ok for her to invite some of her friends if it would help make her more comfortable in her own home.
Just a few though, you don't want to end up having two seperate parties in one place at the same time.
2006-07-06 16:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by cerwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if she invites a few friends. You just might like some of them. You dont refuse to party at a club just because strangers will be there. No, you party at clubs BECAUSE strangers will be there. Look forward to the new faces and enjoy your graduation. BTW, congrats.
2006-07-06 16:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by tigerzntalons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend already knew that the people u invited,she didn't know,i would let her bring 1-2 friends to the party,but if she wants more of her friends there,i'd tell her she needs to chip in with buying the food.Its not fair that u have to buy food for her friends(which are unexpected guests). Plus,she offered her place,i think she had adding her friends to the party set in her mind when she offered her place.
2006-07-06 16:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by fufa1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great way to meet new friends and have a super party - the more the merrier! Sure, ask your friend to throw in a little extra food. This is to celebrate a mile mark in life - what difference does it make who brings what? really - you both are contributing. Have fun!
2006-07-06 16:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by limeyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share with her you don't want strangers and without some of her friends she would be with just strangers.She is putting the party on for you right? Maybe it's not to late to ask for help with the food cost.Wouldn't hurt to ask I guess.
2006-07-06 16:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would politely and gently remind her that it IS your party, but still allow her to invite a few friends. But not many, because you are paying for the food. Maybe 5 or so, depending on how big your group is.
2006-07-06 16:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her invite some of her friends. If the list gets out of hand, you can ask her to help for the food.
2006-07-06 16:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by mike i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her friends are going to be invited to, ask her to pitch in for the food. It's only fair.
2006-07-06 16:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋