One of his fantasies is to have a threesome with another woman. I was very offended by this idea because the thought of sharing my boyfriend with someone else or the thought of him touching another woman drives me nuts. I do not have a fantasy of having two men at once. I believe its because my boyfriend satisfies me on his own. Is it possible that Im just not good enough for him? Would he be able to go through life without having to satify this fantasy? He says he would be willing to leave it unfullfilled. BUT.. Would it be fair of me to ask him to go through life without satisfying this fantasy? I heard from some where that swinging doesnt really help bring couples closer together and may even drive them further apart. Should I just break it off then? He's a fantastic guy and he's great with my kid I dont really want to end the relationship merely over sexual differences. Or is that a good reason too? hmmmm please help.
2006-07-06 16:16:53 · 16 answers · asked by PHD-NDN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Introducing a relationship to poligamy is frought with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundemental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-07-09 01:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, do not do what you don't want to do! If you give in just once, he may continue to keep asking to do it again and again.
I agree with you 100%, it would drive me crazy to see him touching and kissing another girl!!!! I think it will only bring the relationship apart, while his fantasy is fulfilled, your heart broken!
If he says he can go on without fulfilling his fantasy, then great, continue with the relationship. But if he keeps bringing it up...then let him go. I don't think that he is unsatisfied with you, it could be that he thinks your so hot, that why not having to hot chicks at the same time. A lot of guys think 2 girls together are hot. But don't do it if that's what you want.
Many fantasies go unfulfilled, what makes him so special?
2006-07-06 16:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by sharebear1967 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable then don't do it....however, there is always compromise if you are willing to be with a woman. He doesn't necessarily have to touch the other woman, I am sure as with any man, he would feel fulfilled just watching you with another woman. Just my opinion. Ultimately, you need to feel comfortable with the situation. I don't think that a fantasy is good enough reason to break off a relationship, especially if he is good to you and your child. Good men are hard to find.
2006-07-06 16:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, your hubby is fantastically narrow minded- there are adult males who would purchase their spouse diamonds for the 3some chance you provided him with. You do seem insecure that he would cheat on you. Did you tell him that you've been insecure about the topic? Why would you want to damage your self by using having it in the front of you? Or would that is that you imagine you'd be extra on excellent of problems with the area? keep in mind that some people even evaluate on line relationships dishonest. Or is there extra occurring the following than you imagine? Do you imagine you want to teach off how tremendous you husband is yet you're the fellow who keeps him? you may want to ascertain in case you want this. you may want to ascertain why you've this fable. And certain,people can nonetheless have integrity and an open marriage see you later as both companions are thoroughly trustworthy to themselves and their better 0.5.
2016-10-14 05:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by hanrahan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you why they call them fantasies....BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN.
If you go through with this you are an idiot. If you think that having a 3some will keep your guy or vice versa you are an idiot. If he does not realize that NOT turning a fantasy into reality is a GOOD thing he is an idiot.
I don't think you have to break it off, but definitely tell him you do not want to do it....and tell him why. He'll probably understand, because right now I bet you are just going with the flow huh?
2006-07-06 16:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be fair of me to ask him to go through life without satisfying this fantasy?: if he can't live w/ that, then you might as well leave him. sex is, sadly, a big part of relationships these days. likely, if you can't handle what he wants, both of you will be unhappy. don't sell yourself short. always think for yourself. there are plenty of other men who would be completely satisfied with just you. i hope everything works out for you. blessed be.
2006-07-11 14:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Muted Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men gets weird ideas by watching porn and they want to try it out with his gf or wife. They dont think of the consequences. If I am not for it I would say no.and explain why. If he cant respect my feelings, he is not the one for me. I wouldnt want to continue with a guy who has no character nor principles. He would do it with anyone, anytime behind my back.
2006-07-06 16:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only do things that you really want to in your heart. Doing the threesome is a disaster waiting to happen. If he is willing to let it go, so should you. If you want to revisit it down the road you can, but he (and you) should respect your feelings.
2006-07-06 16:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony S. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should think about doing it and get really into the other girl...get so into HER that he feels left out....that way...he has his fantasy, but not really wants to do it again...you get some lovely lady action and after everyones happy!! (including me if you take pics)
2006-07-07 04:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost every guy in the world dreams of two girls at once. trust me you should not get rid of him just because he wants you and another at the same time but you shouldn't do the 3some because chances are it might hurt your relationship.
2006-07-06 16:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋