Is it ok to call your Ex?

Question

I have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend. We dated off and on for 5 years. We loved eachother but we never could just be friends. We went to the same college and both of us still have a year left. I have just been thinking about him lately and have been wondering how he is. Is it okay for me to just call him and see how hes doing even if we rarely talk? Or does it look like I want him back. Can you have a friendly conversation with an ex even if you are not friends?

Answer 1

Only if your mature enough.

Answer 2

i feel that it's better that you don't contact him at all.

Firstly, he's currently attached to another person and so do you. If your current boyfriend's ex contacted him, what would you feel? And you had mentioned that both of you can never be friends and rarely talked to one another. If you try to call him now, he may think that you are not over him.

Some people are able to maintain the friendship between their exs, however i feel that you may not be the kind of person who just want to maintain a friendship with your ex. Obviously, you still feel something towards him. He had already moved on, that's why he started a new relationship after you. So you must also do the same. Don't complicate things around you, especially you have a boyfriend now.

Answer 3

I think you shouldn't but it is up to you I think you guys should just go on and live your lives he is your ex now so that means that you have to move on and so does he and calling him is not going to make anything better because it might cause some old feelings to come back and am not saying forget all about your ex am just saying to keep him part of your past and leave him out of your future and besides you have a bf now and think about how he might feel if you decide to talk to and be close to your ex not a good idea

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Don't call him. If you run into him at your school, ask him how he is. But don't call him. If you can't be friends with someone you used to love, how can you be cordial? And if he starts talking about his new relationship, it will only make you feel worse. Let the past be the past be the past--let go of everything in the past. You will respect yourself later for it. If he has a new relationship, chances are he's moved and is continuing to move on. You do the same. Close that chapter, and open a new book.

Answer 5

It should be okay to just call and see what's up, and it is possible to have a friendly conversation with an ex. A question though: why are you Exes? As long as you don't let it grow out of control, and keep your old feelings in check, (and trust that his are in check), then there should be no problem.

Answer 6

you said do yourself, you two can't stay friends. so you can't have a friendly conversation with him, civil maybe but not that. and yeah, it would look like you want him back if you call him coz you rarely talk to each other. just find yourself some nice guy and move on, ok? if your the gf, you wouldn't want your bf to have a sidedish too, would you? honey, let go. no good will come of it if you're still trying to contact this guy.

Answer 7

I talk to my ex-boyfriend. we're no friends and rarely talk but i check in every once in a while to make sure he's alive and doing fine. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make sure someone who was once a big part of your life is ok. But it really depends on the situation whether or not it'd be ok, ask your boyfriend first (just to make sure it won't cause probs between you two), then call.

Answer 8

I dint think you should call him. that's almost like setting yourself up for trouble. you guys dates off and on for 5 years, and you even said that at the time you could never be friends, to me 5 years is a long time, and those feelings can easily come back.
my advice to you is, don't open an old chapter once already closed.

Answer 9

Yes u can have a friendly conversation with him. I mean if my boyfriend were to call his ex girl then I would kinda be mad but I would understand. If one day my excalled me after a while I would be happy to hear from him but I would also think things weren't going right for him so he was calling to see if I had a b/f or somethin but if he just wanted to talk I would talk and that's my side of veiw from his side of veiw. I mean just make it clear that u just want to talk as friends.

Answer 10

It'll look like you want him, which you do. You said yourself that you and him couldn't be just friends so I don't believe you want to calll him just to see how he is, you want more. Give him a call if you are prepared for disappointment just in case he doesn't want to be more than friends. If you're not prepared, don't call. You'll just make yourself feel worse and re-open old wounds. If you're prepared, then there's nothing to loose, he may be thinking the same thing you are, but doesn't have the confidence to call you. You'll never know if you don't call.

Answer 11

I say don't call him, I mean he has someone now....and you have someone, why bother? It's better if you forget about him, you guys broke up for a reason, right? Besides if you call him he's going to think that you want him, and if your boyfriend or his girlfriend findout that you called they might get hurt and pissed off .....Besides would you want your boyfriend to be calling his ex? I don't think so.....Girl, just leave things the way they are, why risk your relationship? And why put his in danger? Sometimes it's not good to follow our impulses cause they can get us in deep trouble! Good Luck