I have moved our laundry hamper from room to room and he still throws his dirty clothes on the floor. I have put his dirty dishes in the shower with him and he still leaves them all over the house. How do I get through to him? Our 2 yr. old cleans up better than he does!
2006-07-06 15:45:12 · 13 answers · asked by fdchagnot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
put his clothes in the garbage..or pick them up, put them in a corner and never wash them. SERIOUSLY!
2006-07-06 15:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by ss98 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do YOU have to do it? Tell him once that clothes in the hamper will get washed. Those on the floor don't. Never say it again.
Do it exactly the way you told him. Let his clothes rot. He will come around.
Dishes - oh, my. What he does not clean, does not get done. Be strict and follow the rules you lay down for a month. If the dishes get exhausted, serve him on nothing. That will send a messge soon.
You have to live with the mess for a while though..........
FYI - I am a man. I used to be that way. Now, I realized how bad I was to my wife and things are normal now (within reason...hmmm......I think..!).
Any amount of fight, threats, holding-off favors such as sex etc.. do not work. It gets worse. Believe me.
2006-07-06 22:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor, leave them there. do not pick them up, just your's and the baby's. use plastic forks, paper plates so there will be no dishes. if he continues to leave dishes undone, leave his dishes too. just pick up after the baby. set aside one clean space just for the baby, he can fill the house just with his mess, soon he will pick up the message, THAT YOU ARE NOT HIS MAID!!! or ask him that you will go back to wrok and he can stay at home and do your job, let's see if he can. Also, give him the silent treatment, do not yell or nag him. just be cool and aloof and always give him the blank look, let's see if he can read between the lines, if not, look for another baby daddy!!
2006-07-06 22:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my husband it seems like its an issue of disrespect. He doesn't respect me and what I do enough to pick up. Just leaves it because he knows I can't stand it and will pick it up.
I will take his shoes and pile them up in his closet - because he hates to have his shoes stacked (don't know why). I have also hid his shoes. So, if he doesn't pick them up they disappear. The same with clothes. If it doesn't get picked up they disapper.
Dishes. If it isn't taken to the sink you eat on it the next night. If it isn't washed/rinsed that's what you get a dirty dish.
My husband has a habit of stock piling socks at the bottom of his closet. I've started hoarding these socks - not picking them up. So, he eventually runs out of socks for work. He gets mad and fustrated looking for something to wear. Next time he remembers if I want socks they go in the hamper.
Tough love. But, it works!
2006-07-06 22:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll keep checking your answers to see if you get a good one here, i've tried to no avail.....i even put his dirty dishes and clothes in his car, didnt work. Good Luck on your quest!
2006-07-06 22:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy you have a husband and start focusing on the positives instead of the negatives. Nothing you do will change him. You only have power to change yourself. Read Dr Laura's book Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. It saved my marriage and my happiness.
2006-07-06 23:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by polka-dot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pile up his clothes in one place and don't wash them. tell him that you have better things to do then to clean up after him. if you keep on doing this a few times he will get the clue and try to put things in their right place
2006-07-06 22:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by ratel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat him up!
Just kidding. I don't know, I would divorce him. At least that's one less person you have to clean up after.
2006-07-06 22:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by southerngirl84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he is settting a bad example for the children, and to show them how to do it properly. just explain calmly. im sure he'll understand
2006-07-06 22:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by SportsChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that children follow what people DO not what people SAY.
2006-07-06 22:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by afanofnataliewood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋