Is it normal to to think about a lost loved one every single day?

Question

My dad died early last year (May his soul rest in peace) and we were so close.....I miss him so much and not a day goes by without me thinking of him. Surely by now i should have come to acept his death. My Husband thinks i need Help! cos sometimes i dream about him and cry in my sleep. I just want to know if this is normal? I have accepted that His gone and we'll see him one day, But i Miss Him So Much it Hurts!

Hi, Thanx everyone for the words of comfort, all your answers are great and i can't pick one cos they all good. I'll just u guys vote!

Answer 1

Oh, sweetie-
I think it is normal to think about a loved one quite a bit - especially someone you were close to but when your thoughts begin to take away from the life you are living it is time to see someone. Grief counseling would be great and help you get some of this out of your heart...you aren't going to ever *not* think about him but it sounds like you need some relief...find a good therapist who specializes in grief and loss.

Answer 2

My dad died several years ago and I still miss him and think of him often. My mom just died on April 6th of this year. I find myself some days still picking up the phone first thing in the morning to call her because that's what I did for so long. Even if I was going to see her that day, I would call. As adults, we do accept the deaths of our parents, but that doesn't mean that we don't miss them. I still grieve over both my parents and my heart aches that I can't see them or have a conversation with them at this time. Time does dull the pain, but I don't think you ever stop missing them. If you are lucky enough to still have your mom let her know how much that you love her and appreciate her while she is still here on earth. You won't get the chance when she's gone. I have been there and know how you feel. My prayers will be with you. I really hope this helps.

Answer 3

Hunni, o know your pain in more ways than one... i lost my dad when i was 17 on Fathers day, that was 18 years ago, and i think about him all the time... And as you know i lost my son Hunter almost 8 months ago.....Time can heal only so much, and it very normal to be still grieving....I found going to a support group actually helped me a bit, or just talking to someone who has had the same losses as yourself can sometimes help also.. You are not alone hunni, i am here if you ever need to talk ...just contact me.......you may accept his death , but the pain will never go away....

Answer 4

someone told me once that the "normal" grieving time is about six months. I personally think it is different for everyone. I lost my mother 9 months ago, I think of her every day, I talk out loud to her, I wear her jewerly. How each of us heal, that is private, I may not have been as close to my mom as you were to your dad or vise a versa. If you were close and loved each other, they will be with you forever. I don't think there should be a time frame for grief.

Answer 5

Death is so very difficult so final. I have lost both my parents, different years. Been 13 years for my mom and 6 for my dad. I still choke up when I speak of them. But, it does get better, time does heal. I still think of them every single solitary day, but.....now it makes me smile. I remember the love, I remember the wonderful stories. You will get through it, your husband needs to give you the time you need. Everyday is one day closer to accepting your loss. One day you will smile thinking about your dad, and the tears will be of the joy you have shared together.

Answer 6

i get that way with my grandmother. she mise as well had been my mother the way i felt about her. she died and i never got to tell her i was pregnant. every day i wonder if she ever knew, and i still miss her. i know shes gone and wont ever come back, but just the thought that the only time i can see her is in a flash back or in a photo album just sorta gets me choked up inside. not a day passes by that i dont think of her. its love. it shows truely how much you loved and cared for your father.

Answer 7

Like one responder wrote, maybe seek grief consoling (if you can afford it), if not usually there are free chapters that meet to console people who are mourning. They are sponsored by community's as well as churches have grief recovery groups.
Lasty if you have a relationship with God, ask him to take away the pain and fill you with his comfort. That he give you the strength to make it through each and every day. You need someone to talk to also, so the groups might help.

Answer 8

Yes it is very normal, my mother passed away it will be 5 years this December and we were very close. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her. Everything I do reminds me of her. My children and everytime I look in the mirror I see her. And its a blessing. I think I would be sad or worried if a day goes by and I don't think of her. God bless!

Answer 9

My father suddenly passed away 5 years ago and I was completed devastated. I still think about him everyday but now they are pleasant thoughts. So, you can see I think you are very normal. Hang in there and take your time, it will get easier each day. And you are very right you will see him again.

Answer 10

properly quick, beforehand than he says some element like 'i will not wait to make certain you in that dress, i am going to hardly ever guard my fingers off you', or 'you've been the spotlight of my day'. on the grounds that then you definately can not make it seem pleasant. i'm in a same quandary. i do not opt to break the man although i'm satisfied to be acquaintances although no one ever has a similar opinion to any of that, that is so stupid.