Brother-in-law is 20 years old and seems to have no positive direction in his life. Is in a little trouble from a refusal to take a breathalyzer test and has license suspend.. not the first time in trouble but all for misdamenors... would enlisting in the military help give him direction..If so what would be the best branch!!!
Just want input from someone that may have had a similar experience!!! Thank You!!!!
2006-07-06 15:11:02 · 21 answers · asked by DeeDee 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Well, different people respond to different training profiles. It does seem the military would straighten you bro-in-law out, but realize that even during war time we have strict standards. Legal infractions can be a disqualifier. For sure he would not be able to ship before his case is resolved, and it doesn't sound like that will go well for him. Get a good lawyer. Feel free to encourage him toward the military if you like, even talk to a recruiter about waiver options depending on how it comes out. Hell, the lawyer may speak to the recruiter & get the judge to adjudicate it with him off to boot.
As far as what service. The Navy & AF are excellent services that treat you very well & give you significant opportunities, but they are tailored more to folks that already have their crap together & are somewhat self-motivated. This guy seems like he needs someone to break his immaturity & irresposibility & help him build self-confidence & motivation as a team player. That to me sounds more like a job for the Army or Marines. Go ask on military.com
2006-07-06 15:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by djack 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. First, the person has to admit to a problem, then the next challenge is getting them to commit to a solution.
If the military is either a solution or a distraction, it can certainly be an excellent way to get rid of that crap and move foreward toward a more promising future, for both himself and future family.
The military is a sketchy place for new recruits these days, but even statistically, there's really not much to be afraid of, other than some hard work, which is what makes a man in the first place. Go for it!
College help, training, discipline, comradarie, pride, all the good stuff! Definitely a great direction to go. I'd do it now, but I'm middle-aged and have a dependent family.
No... I do not believe in the war in Iraq (and elsewhere), but our people are there now, regardless of the reasons. it's time to kick *** and take care of each other while stability comes about and get the hell out of there.
2006-07-06 22:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I didn't have the same problem as your brother in law, I do know some guys who are in the Marine Corps who have been through the same thing. Ideally, being in boot camp 3 months without alcohol would dry him out, but if he wanted to, he could just take it right back up when he got stationed at his first duty station. Life in the military is no different than civilian life, just a different set of rules and uniform. It might also depend on where he gets stationed. I was stationed in a remote military base called 29 Palms and if you don't have a car, life sucks. Anything worth doing is about 3 hours away, San Diego, Los Angeles, and Las Vegas. Those people who didn't have cars drank like fish during the weekends and got into alot of stupid crap. Because the location is isolated, the base has a very high percentage of drug usage/drinking. Joining the military will not "cure" your brother in law, he has to want to help himself.
2006-07-06 22:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by PinkBrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice - Either the Navy or the Army
Reasons - The Air Force is very selective and will not take someone that is not already self motivated and accomplished
The Marines are very disciplined and refusing a breathalyzer tells me that there would be a big scene ( due to stubbornness and authority problems ) and he would be tossed out on his ear - he does not need a bad conduct discharge
The Army is his best call - they will slowly and methodically tighten down and train him without giving up
The Navy will either break him or toss him depending on him , but they will not toss as fast as the Marines - However he may not make the higher requirements to enter the Navy
That should give you a feel for the services
2006-07-06 22:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was working with a first class petty officer in the Navy who was given a choice military or jail. Depending on how much your brother-in-law can take of disclipine, I would suggest the US Navy submarine force. When I was in it was laid back and real close to being a civilian. The Air Force is another good branch that is relatively easy compared to the Army and the Marines. If he has a drinking problem, it might not be helped by the military. All branches have troubles with alcohol they are getting better, but not perfect.
2006-07-06 22:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he needs positive direction, there are hundreds of non-governmental organizations out there which will help him help others.
It is noble to want to defend one's country, and terrorism is a real problem, but the U.S. government is currently not working for its people. The people who own the companies who make the bombs, missiles, guns, and depleted uranium poisoning Iraq right now fund the campaigns of the politicians who stir up war. They form unholy alliances with dictatorships like Saudi Arabia and then they hypocritically attack the unholy dictatorship of Saddam Hussein who was once their ally when it was convienent. It is purposely instigating war to make profit for the people who fund.
I understand the military has good benefits and provides a lot of financial and social stability ...this is how they suck people into it. The war mongers love it when someone with a criminal background has very few other ways out of their situation other than to join the military. They can buy all the people they want.
I have spent years studying what our government is up to. As good as it may look, and as noble as one's intentions may be, there are very few decisions more self-destructive than putting your life in the hands of the United States government.
2006-07-06 22:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him talk to some recruiters....each branch has their own specialties, and each one could give him direction. At the same token it is not a decision that you should be forced into, as there is a lot of obligations if you enlist and must believe in the military cause.
2006-07-06 22:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by jpxc99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military, any branch, can give a young person a sense of direction and help them settle down, IF they are ready. But if the person is not willing to grow up, it won't work and the person will get into even worse trouble.
2006-07-06 22:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Diane D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could, but it does not help everyone. It changed my life, and I wasn't in any trouble. You, of course, are welcome to find out if he is interested at all. Remember, it is a volunteer army, so you can't force him to do something he doesn't want.
Also, enlisting nowadays is no joke. It is a very real possibility that a new recruit will be sent to Iraq or Afghanistan soon after completing training. This is a very serious decision for someone.
2006-07-06 22:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military may help your brother-in-law. They did not use to take troublesome people, but since they need people at this time, he may have a chance to get in. Some people join the service and become real men. I hope this happens in this case.
2006-07-06 22:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋