what to do if someone tries to destroy your life by using insult and shame?

Question

what if u are a person with depression?

if the someone is your family?

Answer 1

destroy there lives by doing the same thing

Answer 2

Ummmm...take their power away. Put up a wall and don't let them in close enough or long enough to hurt you ever again. They obviously don't respect you, so why should you care about their feelings? Tell them to shut up and go away. In your mind, erase their mouth, block them out entirely. Smile and nod on the outside and inside scream at them that you want them to go away. Your body language will convey your feelings, and will confuse them.

One other tack you may want to try is, when they're in a break from their insult fest, speak up and say, "Thank you so much for pointing that out to me. I had no idea it was bothering you so much and now I know not to do that to you anymore. You're the best friend a person could ask for!!" If appropriate, give them a hug or shake their hand, and use that as your exit line. It'll dumbfound them and eventually they'll stop doing that to you. It also will make them a smaller person in others' eyes who witness this exchange if they come back at you with more insults. If they do, point out that you will add that item to your list of improvements. You'll walk away with dignity and respect, and that person will be left behind to deal with their actions on their own.

Hope this helps!!

Answer 3

Know you are valuable and precious, and likely the other person realizes that so they try to get you down. But you can overcome by your good, maybe trying to understand why this person feels they need to do this. Your patience and strength will make you a better person. But you are in control of how you let that person affect you or not. It is their problem if they have to behave that way. Just not reacting is powerful, and likely to make the person lose interest in bugging you. It can help you to understand others who suffer this way, and it can help you to appreciate yourself better for the truth about you, not perfect but not without good points among weaker areas. That's just being human, and that's okay. Understand yourself, and maybe get some support from some friends if you doubt yourself. Walk away from that person if you can. Their negativity you don't need. Otherwise believe in yourself, and keep on doing what is right regardless of that person.

Answer 4

A person tends to use insults and shame when they have their own shortcomings. Try talking to the person, tell them that their actions are not appreciated, offer to discuss the cause of their insults, and know that these are actually their own issues and not yours. Can an insult really destroy a life? Has anyone ever died of shame. No, and no.

Answer 5

The respectable way to go would be to turn the other cheek. If you're a soulless bastard like I, then heres what you do.

*Look at your options. What does said dirtbag have to lose? What is his weakness? Why do people respect his opinions? Find out the answers to these questions and exploit.
*Call in favors from those in positions of power. Friends with any cops? If so, describe their car and tell your cop buddy to green light him.
If all else fails and youre not well enough skilled to use any of aforementioned methodologies, go old school. Place a "hypothetical" illegal substance, weapon, object or media file on his person or in his vehicle. Anonymously notify the authorities of said "hypothetical" illegal object. Preferably use a payphone to make said phone call. Pray for forgiveness and watch him squirm.

*DISCLAIMER*
Do not utilize any of the aforementioned methodologies on any person as it is probably illegal. Previous post is intended for the use brainstorming/hypothetical purposes only. By reading this disclaimer the author of said post is now devoid of any responsibility as a result of or from any hypothetical or actual incidents described here in.

-J.

Answer 6

3 things that have helped me in the past, as I have had people try and almost suceeded, but I dropped to my knees and called out to the Master above and now I am where i should be.PRAY!!BELIEVE!!DO!! first you pray, and believe in the prayer and that God will help you then you have to do for yourself.God will help us but we also have to help ourselves first. Find some good people to be around and maybe try some new things. Be around people that like to do things,fish,swim,camp outdoor things and maybe inside things, go with some friends to the movies, or maybe to eat. You get the picture I am sure. I am so sorry you are depressed. We all have highs and lows and I am sure that it won't last long. Hope the best for you, you are in my prayers and also think of where the insults are coming from. Pray for them.

Answer 7

This seems to be a common technique for lots of people, and especially controlling, dysfunctional parents. Best thing to do is to let it roll off your back, like water off a duck. Leave that person alone, if you can. You didn't say whether it was a family member, or someone you can avoid.

Answer 8

don't do the same back to them, you don't want to be anything like them.. fell proud you are not like them and walk away , get them out of your life, no matter who it is. You can take a person to court for slander you know... thats mental abuse and you don't have to put up with it .Always remember though what goes around comes around, so please don't do the same back to them , it will only make you a bitter and miserable person .. karma is a great thing.Be strong and all the best. :)

Answer 9

I've had someone try to do that to me-and they almost succeeded. Now I would just walk away. Trying to talk to someone like that will just upset yourself and get you nowhere. A person like that is not a necessary part of your life. I don't care who they are. They'll have to answer for it someday.

Answer 10

Don't let them do it. You are in total control of your life. If you don't let them get to you, they can't ruin your life. Just ignore the insults and remember that you are better than that.