Do you think it is harder to stay faithful to your other half when you are in the military since you are away for mths at a time?
2006-07-06 14:51:54 · 21 answers · asked by nm 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
When i say spouse i meant girlfriend which shouldn't make a diffrence.
2006-07-06 15:02:47 · update #1
Having served in the Marines I can tell you that its not so much of a question whether you will cheat but if she will. Remember, you will be working, unless you're on PCS orders, alsmot everyday and you're going to be around a lot of other guys in a place thats probably not party central. Your love interest, on the other hand, is gonna be in the same type of enviorment that she met you and every other guy shes gone out with.
2006-07-06 16:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by joeybagofdonnuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, I would say yes, it's very easy. I was in the military and knew a lot of guys who were deployed and a few wives were faithful, their biggest worries being about their husband and how to be both parents to their kids. Unfortunately, a lot of wives were unfaithful. It became so bad that a local club had "Deployed Wives Night," where all the wives of deployed Marines could get in for free and do their nasty things. I don't know the circumstances surrounding their situations, but I do know that it gets lonely having your loved one deployed for so long and so great a distance. You miss the little things like physical contact, hearing their voice, having their input in daily decisions. Some people are emotionally unstable during this time so if someone comes along who can offer the little comforts, alot of people snap it up without thinking twice. It doesn't make them bad people, it just means their marriage/relationship wasn't meant to last. On the swing side, I know that guys who are deployed also get lonely and sometimes cheat while being deployed and don't mention it when they come back to the states, it's a two way street.
2006-07-06 15:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by PinkBrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is hard to stay faithful while deployed away from your girl. I think it would be harder to be faithful in the states.
But it all comes down to the person, if the guy is a man whore than he will find a way to cheat and same for the girl.
I have never cheated while away from any of my past girlfriends on military assignment, They can't all say the same.
2006-07-07 01:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by MP US Army 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence does not make the heart grow fonder..., especially if you have doubts before the separation. The best advice I could give you is talk to a minister/priest/rabbi or someone trained in marital counseling. If you are already separated, do not wait. And especially, do not depend on friends of your spouse to help you through these trying times...that's a temptation looking for a place to happen. Also, remember that telling your friends could also get you in trouble with your spouse when they try to "help" by talking to your spouse. Find someone whom you can trust and who understands what confidentiality is. Good luck.
2006-07-06 17:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be. When you married you took a vow to love this person forever until death do you part. Also, this means complete faithfulness to each other. I'm sure it isn't easy, but just remember your love for each other and how you would feel if your spouse cheated on you. It is worth the wait for their return, trust me.
2006-07-06 14:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by just a mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more than anyone else. People who do not respect their spouses can always find a way to cheat. I have been propositioned at the grocery store many times. 33 years of marriage & we both love & respect each other too much to cheat.
My relatives in military all say they have been faithful & all still married to same people.
2006-07-06 15:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. I am in a long distance relationship and we have no trouble staying faithful. When I was in the Navy, it seemed that the wives had a harder time staying faithful, but when you are only surrounded by water with no women around it is easier.
2006-07-06 14:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do but I'm not a very good judge on the faithfullness part. I always tend to mess up. But only when they leave me. One went into Navy oops sorry other went to jail oops sorry. It's probably not a reasonable excuse if your married there are vows before God that have to be upheld.
2006-07-06 14:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My husband has been deployed twice in the last 3 years and neither one of us has had a problem with being faithful. We respect each other and would never jeopardize our relationship for a one night stand.
2006-07-06 14:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by SSG wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, in fact it's times like that which show the true strength of the relationship. Stay faithful to them.
2006-07-06 14:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by J.D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋