I have only seen my girlfriend twice in almost 8 weeks. I have passed up chances to work out my frustration with other women. It doesn't feel like we are really together. Is it stil cheating?
2006-07-06 14:50:13 · 31 answers · asked by TheSkeptic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She still acts like I am her boyfriend. I know we have to be together a lot more often. The separation is killing me if that matters.
2006-07-06 14:56:52 · update #1
yes it is still cheating....if you don't want to hurt her you need to break it off with her and then pursue these other relationships with the other females....put yourself in her shoes...she probably thinks that you are being faithful while the two of you are apart..she would be really hurt if you begin to see other woman...i am positive that she would rather you talk to her and tell her how you feel and tell her that the distance isn't meeting your physical or emotional needs and that you need to separate...i know if it were me i would rather you break up with me before you cheat on me...
2006-07-06 15:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by donnishah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys stand point I will say "BE A MAN" If you want to have sex with other women then end the relationship. Not only are you playing dangerous with the one niters but you are possibly endangering her and she doesn't even know about it. That is not fair to her.
Second why have you only seen her twice in two weeks. If it is school or a new job cut her some slack. If it is that she is always with friends or some such then she may be trying to set things for a break up.
It could just be that she is super busy. What have you done about trying to see her. Have you showed her that you care. Have you tried to move your schedule around so you have time for her?
Hey have you been too clingy? Talk to her dude! Get her point of view.
Last but not least how long have you dated. Was it just casual. Is she really your girlfriend or just a girl you went on a couple of dates with. The two are not always the same.
2006-07-06 22:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by triathlon1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always be faithful no matter what the distance is and how much you have not seen a person. If you were willing to put up with the relationship then you mind as well make it last for the best. If you feel like it is not working then talk to your girl and break up or something. It is difficult but do not quit! Good Luck.
2006-07-06 21:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by DORKALICIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. If u have only seen her twice in 8 weeks and it doesnt feel like u guys are together anymore than just cut the relationship off. Why be a smut and cheat on her when u can free yourself up and be with another girl legitimately?
2006-07-06 21:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating, because you're still her boyfriend even if you don't see her much. If you want to date other girls, be straight with her, tell her that you can't do that anymore, how come you don't see her that often? If you feel that you're not goin anywhere with her and that the relationship you two have is a waste of time tell her, is better to be true to her than to opt for the easy way out "cheating"....It's always to talk with the truth, you wouldn't want her to do the same to you, would you? Good Luck
2006-07-06 21:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by hey_tiger_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're asking, it's obvious to me that it's time to break it off.
If you even have been tempted, why go on with the charade? Break it off, then you won't be cheating.
PS>>Just read your additional details: If it's killing you because you love her and miss her, then cowboy up and stay faithful, do all you can to see her more often. If this really IS the reason, then would you stay with her if she decided to be chaste until you were married, regardless of past actions? HMMMM........But, if what's killing you is that you can't "work out your frustration" with her or someone else, then again I say it's time to go your way, let her move on, too.
2006-07-06 21:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by shiba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of cheating on someone, you should call off the relationship, because if you feel that you are tempted, then you shouldn't have a relationship with her in the first place. If you know you can remain faithful, then talk to your significant other about your feelings.
2006-07-06 21:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its not working you need to break up with her first. Its the only fair and repectful way to do things. It will also save a lot of heartbreak and complication. Unless you are dedicated enough to each other to work out a way to spend more time. But if you were, you'd probably be asking a different question.
2006-07-06 21:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by soulgirl76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys claim to be boyfriend and girlfriend, then yes it is cheating. How would you like it if she did the same thing with another guy? If you feel like your relationship is really bad then perhaps the two of you should split up.
2006-07-06 21:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by dogluver8906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask her if its alright to see the occasional other person especially if you still feel for each other but dont get the chance to be with each other. I dont think that it should cause a problem if its agreed by both of you and a system if worked out so the privilidge is not abused.
2006-07-06 21:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by guitar_playin_gnome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋