**** buds are in for the sex, not commitment ryt? well, i think mine's fallin for me... how do i break it off w/ her w/o hurting her. we're close friends btw
2006-07-06 14:49:46 · 11 answers · asked by c3dr1c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you still want to stay friends:
Start putting the sex on hold. Go out like you normally do, just don't go back to your or her place at the end - no sex. Meanwhile, start looking for a guy friend to hook up with your bud. Then go on a double date with her and her new boyfriend. Once she is involved with someone else, she will not sleep with you anymore (until she breaks up with him that is)
Good luck.
2006-07-06 15:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Hopeful67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's not a whole lot u can do about it if she's falling for u..but if u want some distance just say u don't want to be friends w/benefits anymore....just say it nicely...although even if u stop the sex she still could be getting attached to u!
Just be honest with her...for me personally it hurts more when someone's not upfront with me about stuff like that then if they would just have told the truth!So just be honest...and tell it to her as nicely as possible..there's not a whole lot more u can do!
2006-07-06 21:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her straight up that you feel that the arrangement isn't working anymore. You let her know that while you care about her and enjoy your time together, you notice that her feelings for you seem to be changing and that you value her friendship more than anything and would rather end your physical relationship in favor of your friendship so as to not hurt her or end up being hurt.
It might work, it might not. Who knows? girls are more romantic than guys and sometimes make things more than they really are. Good luck.
p.s. don't do anything to hurt her like talking about other girls. She is after all, your friend and you want to treat her as such.
2006-07-06 21:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Gaby A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be true to yourself, and if you care for her as a friend, you have to make sure she doesn't get hurt down the road.
Be polite and honest and stop hitting the sheets together.
Perhaps things will change in the future between both of you and it would suck to have burnt the bridges between the both of you.
Friends can work.
2006-07-06 21:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Khalen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch thats never a good situation. I wouldn't tell her straight out that you are not into it. Instead, start talking about other girls. It will tick her off in the short term, but at least you can let her know you aren't into her without rejecting her outwardly. If she confronts you, tell her she is great wonderful blah blah blah but you don't want to ruin your friendship.
2006-07-06 21:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off soon. I am in a similar situation and i wish he would just be honest and break it off, but i couldnt still be friends because i would be jealous of other women he was with.
2006-07-06 21:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by ryle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off
2006-07-06 21:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Babe♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her find out how she feels. remind her that it was a buddy thing. Spend sometime appart.
2006-07-06 21:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Luchador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, but no advice on this one. You just have to end it and she might not like it.
2006-07-06 21:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you have found you a better bed buddy
2006-07-06 21:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋