2006-07-06 14:44:16 · 18 answers · asked by suzanna_bananas 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i work freelance and my jobs are usually only 9 weeks at a time or so. when i first start a new job, everyone loves me, but over time it changes and everyone hates me. i don't know how to describe it besides that i have a hard time getting along with people.
2006-07-06 17:17:38 · update #1
i have always wanted to be one of those people that everyone loves to be around. i just don't know if that's something you can create.
2006-07-06 17:18:47 · update #2
An air of confidence with a heart that sincerely cares about people is very attractive. People aren't drawn to people who have low self-esteems and are socially phony out of an obligation to please.
Also, seek God to guide you to be the person He created you to be. I know He will show you because He did for me after wandering away from my likeable natural nature for a time.
2006-07-06 21:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
We all want that. You need to scrutinize situations where you think you tipped off someone. Analyze it. You'll learn whether you are doing anyting to drive people away. Being a little tolerant helps. But the bottom line is you really cant make people like you. They will like you if there is the right chemistry. If not, then not. I chased for the same thing. Nothing more other than a little acceptance. When I couldn't fight this need anymore, I just decided that I'll be who I am. That is the best thing to be. You are probably unlike the crowd. Perhaps, you are eccentric in a positive way. But since law says, everything is both ways. Look within your self and try to see what you might be contibuting. Hope this helps
2006-07-06 17:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't make or force anyone to like you. Just be yourself. Why do you have to change to please other people?
Maybe if you feel people hate you, you can always approach them without confrontation in private and be polite and ask them "I have the impression that you dislike me for some reason, and I would like to know if it is just my perception or not".
You know you can be the nicest person in the world and still have someone hate you for no reason. I smile and say hello to people all the time and they frown and scowl or glare at me.
So take it as their problem. As for popularity, that is something media and TV like to advertise such as the show Friends.
In real life, people have issues and sometimes they dislike a person for reasons that you will never know. Just be polite to them and if they hate you, well it's their problem. I can only speak for myself but the reasons why I do not like people is because they are fake, arrogant, obnoxious, and rude. If you are none of these , then maybe they dislike you because you have something that they don't have like intelligence? Don't worry about these people. At the end, they do not pay your bills.
2006-07-07 16:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by TiredofIdiots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise on certain issues.
Keep your mouth shut if somebody says something that you don't agree with.
Don't start arguments aggressively.
Speak calmly to people who are aggressive to you, or even better, walk away from them.
Show some compassion and don't constantly act like a hard @ss.
2006-07-06 14:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell stories, fill in the gap, smile a lot, work on an automatic laugh so people don't feel uncomfortable. put your opinions aside when people aren't asking for them (within reason). compliment, ask pointed questions about others around you, be interested in them. be aware of others, when they are uncomfortable, when they are having a good time, when they need to talk, when they want to listen, etc. try it out with strangers.
2006-07-06 14:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by annraven12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be able to overlook a lot. Smile and be pleasant. Don't criticize. If you want people to like you, you have to be a likeable person.
2006-07-06 14:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept people for who they are; don't try to change them. Look at their good side; and don't dwell on their bad side. Always be friendly, and just be yourself around them.
2006-07-06 15:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Seminolecharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to like yourself first. Work on that.
2006-07-06 14:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you talk about yourself too much. Ask other people questions about themselves and their interests.
2006-07-06 14:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more tolerant of others, don't act like a know it all, treat others with the same respect you would want, don't be youself (change your attitude)
2006-07-06 14:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by money matters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋