I kept kids from their father for 12 days, cuz he hit his other child for talking back and leaving his home. My kids did not see Dad hit the other kids but heard it and are scared, I did not file a restraining order but did contact CPS to investigate. Will CPS help me help my kids?
2006-07-06 14:35:22 · 7 answers · asked by sinneragain 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The judge awarded the Dad his days back and told me I should have filed a restraining order. I was scared and did not. NO kids now for 21 days. OMG
2006-07-06 14:36:16 · update #1
What do you mean by no kids for 21 days? You haven't seen them in that long? Was that to give dad "his" days back? I think I'd go crazy if my kids were gone that long. It must be ripping you up inside. I think the judge goofed. I think your kids should have remained away from their dad until CPS had time to complete their investigation about him hitting his other child. If the report was unfounded then the judge would be within his rights to give him his visitation back. Talk to the CPS worker. I know she can't share anything about the case with you, but your can express your concerns for your kids and ask her how she can help you protect them.
In the future if you feel strongly that his visitation should be suspended, file a petition in Family Court to do just that. Giving a detailed description as to why you think it should be suspended. Then, if the judge agrees, you be in this situation again. I think what the judge was saying is that you violated the courts visitation order by keeping your kids from their dad. I think you had just cause. Next time, file a petition. You may still be able to do that for this situation. It may depend on the outcome of the CPS investigation.
Keep a close eye on your kids when they return from visitation. For signs of bruises, how they're acting, etc. You may be stuck with the situation as is for the time being.
God bless!
2006-07-06 14:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋
CPS will help you if there is some type of tangible evidence that the father hit the child. They will investigate if you allege that the father is being physically abusive. However, this can take some time. If you and your children are truly scared, you should file a restraining order and the Judge will be more likely to enforce that. Keep in mind, though that the restraining order is only on paper, so don't allow it to create false hope that he will not violate it. Sometimes restraining orders deter people and sometimes they don't. Make sure you contact the police if you or your children are ever on danger. Then, if you have a restraining order, the cops will enforce that. Try filing an ex parte order to ask for the kids back. Good luck.
2006-07-06 21:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by MEG R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make accusations without proof. Next time call the police, child protective services and file a restraining order. Your kids can testify that they are afraid of their father. It's up to you to protect them.
2006-07-06 21:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep arecord of what is going on, keep in mind you have to deal with this guy and the judge for years to come, so maybe you should think about it and just try to keep the peace.i know it is hard but you have to protect those kids and yourself, you dont want to seem like a parent that is only trying to get bac kat the dad, i was one of those parents, it looked like i was trying to get back at my sons dad but i wasnt, the judge fianlly saw what my sons dad was doing and everything was awarded in my favor.i think you should record everything ,and keep it on record and record everything the kids say, call the cops if you have to. do everything you can to keep those kids safe.
2006-07-06 21:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a diary of everything that goes on. Make pictures of any bruises, and record everything the kids say that there dad did to them.
And pray.
2006-07-06 21:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep this man away from your kids...contact whoever you have to. i'm not sure who will help or won't....but i have nephews and a neice who have been hurt physically by my sister in law. now she can't touch them b/c of intervention. so fight hard, hon...don't give up or anything. as for the unpleasant judge...yes, they exist. unfortunately we can't yell back. LOL.
2006-07-07 13:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear it!
2006-07-06 21:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋