Girlfriend Problem?

Question

So things were going fine with my girlfriend and then very recently she has been acting a little distant so today I told her that we need to talk. I get the feeling she wants to break up, but the reason Im thinking that is because I've had past girlfriends do the same thing to me. I know Im messing up and doing something wrong along the way, but I don't know what, but this time I want to turn things around and get it right. What can I say that won't sound needy?

Answer 1

Sounds like you are assuming here. I wouldnt compare previous relationships to the present one. If by chance.. she is wanting to break up with you.. just communicate in an adult way and ask her for some postive criticism as to why she wants to break up, take it like a man and learn from what she says.. providing she is telling the truth and acting adult like also. You may not be doing anything wrong.. it may be the past girls you have dated. And she may not be wanting to break up with you. Maybe she has something on her mind that doesnt even involve you. But.. there are alot of maybes out there. So why worry over something that is assumed at this point. Wait til you cross that bridge before you spend time worrying about it now. Good luck!

Answer 2

The worst thing you can do is appear needy. Make sure you have interest and hobbies separate from your girlfriends. Do not feel the need to be with her all the time. Just because she needs some space doesn't mean she wants to break-up. Let her know that you care about her and ask her whats been bothering her. If she says she needs a little breathing room give it to her. There are a lot of well intentioned good hearted guys out there who have sabotaged their relationship because they suffocated their partner until she couldn't take anymore. I speak from experience and only wish you the very best. Best wishes for a long and happy relationship.

Answer 3

When you talk to her just say that you've noticed that she's been a little distant latley and you were just wondering what was up. Tell her that you're there for her if she needs to talk about things and that you won't judge her. Tell her that you really want things to be good between the 2 of you and that communication is important. Ask her if she is happy with the way things are going and if she's not ask her what is is that you're doing wrong. Remind her that no one's a mind reader and that if you need to work on something that she has to tell you what it is so that you can. If in the end she's not happy then try not to take it to bad, ok. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Hate to say it - but you are right - she is getting ready to leg it. Be cool about it. There may be nothing you can do....but being needy is going to make the breakup happen sooner. Some options:

You can act like it doesn't concern you and flirt with someone else, which may or may not work to turn her head back towards you (unless this is the area you are screwing up in, in which case don't)

or

Pre-empt her breakup and break up with her first

or

Act like nothings wrong , hope it passes

But keep it together regardless. You want to project strength and mystery. We are suckers for that for some reason. Make her wonder if you did care. You can always have one of those deep talks and get back together. We women like sensitive guys up to a point. But, keep in mind if she has made up her mind, and her feelings have cooled, there isn't much you can do.

Answer 5

jus express yourself...............who cares about what she thinks the point is that she will never forget how much you cared for her n' how bad she messed up..but don't sound too happy cuz it's probably suttin u did. you could also go out and jus ask her basic questions about what she likes in a guy and if your doing a good job fullfilling her needs...............jus remember to complete her's..........u have bad luck man.i wish you the best n' hope you'll find the best one in the future and soon cuz everyone needs to be loved regardless of weight, skin, race,religion ect..beauty is only skin deep

Answer 6

Tell her how you feel... ask her what she feels you did wrong. If you feel this is something you can work on then tell her so and ask her to bare with you, that you are interested in making things work with her.

Be honest about the whole thing... if this one slips away then try to be more aware of this in future relationships...

Answer 7

tell her that you want to make it right and that you won't give up on your relationship just yet. then talk about both of your issues and listen to every word each other says. decide which way to fix it and start that process...good luck!!!!

Answer 8

you can tell her what you just told me and everybody else and explain to her how you realy feel, i know cause my boyfriend said he had the same problem with me, but he said that we needed to talk and talk them he busted in tears and i felt so bad so hopefuly it would work for you too.

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Answer 9

If you really like this girl then do something big and make her feel like youve been listening to what she likes. girls love gifts... oh and if you havent been paying attention to what she likes get here something that everyone you know likes!

Answer 10

Just ask her whats bothering her... don't be an *** about it just tell her that you care for her enough to ask her whats bothering her about you, you can also tell her that your willing to work on changing what is wrong with you if she would tell you.