OK, I'm 25 and was in a relationship with a man for 9 year (4 of them in marriage). We spilt up in February, and I haven't gone on any dates or been with anyone else since.
He has been with 2 girls and has been dating one for a little over 2 months now.
In a receient discussion, I told him I hadn't seen anyone and was quite happy to be alone. His response was "no, you NEED a boyfriend. We've been apart for a while and it's time you moved on with someone else"
I've come to the realisation (after a few other questions were asked) that he feels he MUST be in a relationship to be happy and feel successful.
This begs me to ask the question -
Do you feel you HAVE to be in a relationship to be happy and/or successfull in life?
Do you feel that those who are single are missing out and pity them?
2006-07-06 14:23:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy or successful, but when you are with a guy or girl you feel more secure... like you will always have someone there for you its a great feeling.
2006-07-06 14:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Heather L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm going to be honest - According to the person. Some people need that human support to be pushed or motivated. Some people are self-motivated. Again, for some people, they have always had someone to hold and be happy - they know nothing else . And then some people can be alone and happy. Be single is not missing out unless u are sitting at home every day (that's the pity)- then go out with cousins or friends. Relationships does not define happiness and/or success, u do!!!
2006-07-06 21:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by JohnnyMusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been single for 5+ years and I am happy.
I feel I am missing out on certain experiences that can only be had when in a relationship but that don't make me a failure.
When the right lady comes along, I am sure that It will make me happy. But I don't think that a relationship is what I need to be successful.
2006-07-06 21:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by ouwx104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a relationship does not make your happiness. Happiness has to come from within you. You have to be happy with yourself--with your looks, your abilities, your attitudes--that's what really is happiness. If you are happy with who and what you are, that will reflect in your demeanor. The way you smile, the way you walk, talk, etc. And the only way to find that is by finding out who you are, and that is done by spending the time to find that out......in the long run you can only have a happy relationship if you are able to give happiness, and you only can do this if you are happy from within.
As far as your ex is concerned, I would not judge. There are guys out there who have to have a woman to validate themselves, no matter what. They are insecure and insecurity leads to a controlling attitude on their part. A guy who knows who and what he is in life, what his limitations are, and who works on his goals will not tell you what you must have. He will respect that you know what you need and leave you alone about it. On the other hand, one who tries to tell you what you need AFTER it is done and over with, feels that he needs to be in control---so do what you have to. Go out, have fun, go to the gym, and date again when you are ready, not because anyone is trying to tell you that this is something you MUST do.
2006-07-06 21:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, no how! Relationships are nice but not the whole pie. You need to be happy with yourself before you can share and totally be happy bringing someone else in. Dating is not being in a relationship, though he is partially right, and logical step but not necessary. I'm very happy being single and I've been married and have kids.
2006-07-06 21:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by TomTom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you dont need a relationship to be happy!!! tell him that he is needy when he says that to you again!! you have better things to do than waste your time trying to find someone else... it will come naturally... thats the best way
2006-07-06 21:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by mz.Tiza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its really up to you and how you feel.
2006-07-06 21:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by khymmarye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋