how do you help someon with a drinking problem, and he does not want help?

Answer 1

get him drunk and make him sign the contract to a rehab.

Answer 2

There are two ways to help drinkers. One is to wait until they hit rock bottom, then go in with help (AA or something). Another is intervention, which is enlisting support of family and friends, and forcing the addict to see the problem and pressuring them into accepting treatment.

For example, a friend might intervene with his alcoholic buddy by telling him he has to stop drinking or else he will get hepatitis (or fatty liver, or overdose or any other negative side effect). For ideas google alcoholic. Then once they admit they have a problem (maybe in casual conversation) a fmaily member puts pressure on them to stop (for example, a wife might say - get off the booze or I'll leave you). Usually under this pressure they will accept treatment. Alcohlics Anonymous is not only free, but is a proven program with a great success rate. Once detoxed (done with withdrawl symptoms) the drinker must never drink again (or they will almost surely relaspe.

Hope this helped, there are hotlines you can call to to get professional advice. Just google it (AA hotline etc.)

Hope you get your buddy to stop drinking...

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do but control your own actions. Don't participate with them in their drinking activities. Mention ONE time that you feel like they may be abusing alcohol. Then don't ever bring it up again or you will most likely lose the friendship. You must understand that a true alcoholic will not let anything or anyone come between them and their alcohol.

And don't EVER get into a relationship with an alcoholic.
Advice from someone who has been with them and has them in his family!

Answer 4

They need to want to stop, themselves - no one can help a person with an addiction, if that person does not want to be helped.

You, yourself could go to meetings of families and friends of alcoholics, etc., or to a counselor to vent your frustration and fears.

Intervention and threats usually do not go well - even if they work temporarily - the "unready" alcoholic will go back to his old ways. Some people, unfortunately, have to hit "rock bottom" (lose family, job, loved ones, friends, money, etc) before they even realize that they have a problem.

I wish you well, and hope you do get yourself some help, for dealing with the whole situation.

Answer 5

Big problem. Unfortunately you cannot help anyone who does not want help with any problem. Getting help with any problem requires the person to want help and seek it to have it work. Adults cannot be made to do things. The only thing a person can do is make a person aware that help is available and where it is and offer to help them if they every need it. That is tell them I am here if you every need me to take you to an AA metting or to tell you how to find one.

Answer 6

ALANON/ALATEEN On-line Forum/Chat Roomsupport group for families and friends of Alcoholics . The only requirement for membership is that you think you have been affected by someone elses drinking....

the emphasis is on your feelings and spiritual condition. Once you learn things like how to take care of yourself and understand how the drinke r affects you...you learn how to help them without enabling the drinker emotionally and financially...and how to stay out of the drama of the drinker's life whilst still caring about them.
Invaluable...powerful...and it works...

Its just for today...

Answer 7

You can lead a horse to water..... get it? I'm being totally serious. You cannot force someone to get help they don't believe they need. You can be supportive of them and open with your feelings, but they must sign to the consequences of their decisions ultimately on their own. I feel for you in your frustration. It can be hard enough to support someone with an illness of this kind on the road to recovery, but when they don't want help and you care about them, that's the worst. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

Have you ever heard that you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink??

Alcoholics who dont want help either have a death wish or are mentally unbalanced; depression, suppressed anger, unforgiveness.. there are so many "reasons" a drunk drinks. There is nothing you can do for them.. standing by them only enables them, you do more harm than good by "being there" for them. Many of them want crutches, you for instance would possibly become their crutch. Never loan them money, give them money, wash their clothes, offer a place to live, or take them to any place unless its a rehab. My father was a drunk; my mother died of a broken heart because of him... there is no help unless your friend can pull it out of his butt.

I know you care; I know that you want to help, but you cannot. The man or woman is going to have to want to live; if he doesnt, he will take you down with him. Been there... not ever again...

Answer 9

Make an appointment for him to have an evaluation. The professionals can help. It worked for me. 3 1/2 years sober

Answer 10

As sad as it is to say, c, the only person we can truly save in this world is ourself. Having a long line of very painful experiences w/ alcoholics, I urge you to withdraw. The only way to win is not to play. That is not to say we cannot pray for them and offer to help when they are ready, but continuing a relationship w/ an alcoholic will make you as sick as they are. Repeat after me: Crazy people make sane people crazy. Not the other way around. And an alcoholic is a crazy person.Al-anon saved my sanity and gave me the courage to start a new life. Good Luck. Please let me know you got out.

Answer 11

Get yourself educated about it. Go right on line and really study . There are things you can do so that you won't be accidentally adding to the problem. You will also be wise and ready when your friend is finally ready for help. Check out Al-anon.org