I've been lying since I was little and it's about the stupidest things, things I wouldn't even get in trouble for. I don't know why I lie and can't seem to stop. It has really put a horrible strain on my relationship with my mother and I'm on house arrest, grounded, and have to keep my bedroom door open at all times. I want to talk to a psychiatrist and have discussed it with my mom several times, but nothing ever seems to get done. I am desperate. What should I do?
2006-07-06 14:01:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, thank you all so far for your answers. I'd just like to add that I have already done the damage and am not mad at my mom - i would have done the same to my daughter. I have been trying for 6 yrs now ( I'm 14) to curb this habit. Does anyone have any idea what might be the source psychologically?
2006-07-06 14:19:50 · update #1
Maybe if your mom won't help you, then you should seek another adult that will. You'll never get better if she just keeps punishing you, you need help.
2006-07-06 14:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are lying, why do you continue to do it. It has become such a habit that you don't even think about it anymore before you do it. That's all it is, a habit. Break the habit. Just like smoking you have to want to for it to happen. What do you gain by lying all the time. Your mom will never trust you. Even when you are much older she will always have the doubt whenever you tell her something. You will have to start all over again and show her that you are trustworthy. You should not be mad at your mom for things you could have controlled. If she starts treating you like a two year old then don't forget that you are acting like one. This is meant to be constructive criticism, not bashing you, OK. If you don't change now you will ruin all your relationships with family and friends for the rest of your life. It's relay up to you, what you want to do.
2006-07-06 21:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by laurelbush28762 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always had the same problem but it reaches beyond my mom now since I don't live at home it is extended to my boyfriend and others around me. My brother has the same problem and his wife bitches about it all the time then she comes to me to ask why? I don't know It is an extremely bad habit and starts when you are little like you said, I guess you just have to take small steps and think about what you are saying and doing to those around you before you dig your self into a deep hole one day. Let me know if you find a better solution!!!
2006-07-06 21:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deffinetly seek out another adult who's more willing to help you find the counciling you need. also for the time being try babysteps. for example if you lie on average three times a day try lying once less and keep on stepping down. the more you tell the truth the easier it is to keep telling the truth. maybe start with your mom, have a heart to heart with her. tell her you know you lie far too much and you want to stop. see if that honesty gets you anywhere with her and if it makes you feel any better.
2006-07-06 21:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lie to your mom because you are deathly afraid of her.
Since you want to talk to a psychiatrist and she won't help, I very strongly suspect that you are right to be afraid of her.
Can you write down the rules your mom wants you to obey? And then can you be that kind of robot, without whining about it, until you've finished high school? I think you can do it -- all you have to do is put all your lies together into a convincing act and play that consistently until you're free.
Your mom may be hoping that you TRY that and FAIL. But you have to be strong and get through this without failing, without giving up and without showing your mom how angry you are.
It isn't easy but freedom is worth it.
2006-07-06 21:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still in school discuss it with the school counselor or set up an appointment with a psychiatrist then give your mom the info.Then let her decide to cancel it or take you to it. Be indepent show her you really do want remember she is used to you lying to her.
2006-07-06 21:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by fly on the wall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling the truth has always seemed to me to be a sign of maturity by someone that's growing in strength. Usually a person will start to lie when they are out powered by someone that will punish them for telling the truth or so it seems to me.
2006-07-06 21:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by detailsondemand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kudos to you for recognizing you have a problem and wanting help. That is more than half the battle. I would encourage you to tell your mom you want to go to the family doctor; that you need to see someone because you feel something is wrong and you want to talk to someone. The family doctor can set up an appt with someone.
2006-07-06 21:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop lying, most people lie like that for attention. If you want more attention from her, ask for it. The only kind of attention you'll get by fibbing all the time is negative and she won't trust you.
2006-07-06 21:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kryztal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Mom, I need help. I have a problem and want to talk to a doctor (psychiatrist)."
Being honest with yourself is often the first step to honesty with others.
2006-07-06 21:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋